Bring Sexy Back
Remember when you wanted nothing more than naked time with your man - all the time? Bring back that loving feelin' with this exclusive guide to reigniting your passion - only at SheKnows.com!
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Lisa Steadman, a relationship journalist for The Breakup Chronicles, www.BreakupChronicles.com and author of It's a Breakup Not a Breakdown says: "Whether you're married for years, have children, and/or just feel the spark is waning, it's important to reignite that spark. You may need a shift in thinking. First, start thinking of your relationship as a third party. You, your partner, and the relationship are all active members of the same triangle. Not only do you and your partner have needs, but your relationship has needs. If you neglect it, you lose the spark."
How do you reclaim the spark? She advises: "Make time for slowing down, i.e. turn the TV off, set aside time to not talk about the kids, the bills, the debt, work. Talk to the other person about them. Light candles, listen to soft music, touch without being sexual. Just BE together. Kiss. Be kind, nurturing. Give back rubs. Go on a date. Invite play into the bedroom. Whether that's cuddling, toys, sexy lingerie, whatever works for both of you. Don't always make this time about sex. Sometimes in order to get back to sex, you need to first get back to loving and being loved as a couple. Stimulate your senses to stimulate the sexual/sensual appetite."
How men are like puppies
"In a way, men sometimes are like cute pet puppies. A man would much rather roll around in the mud or dig holes in the yard than spend time making his relationship better," Dr. McClary says. "Now I am not saying men are like dogs or that they should come panting when you whistle. I am saying that many lessons about living with men can be learned from observing ever-faithful canine companions. All obedience schools are based on the reward system, so it's probably worth applying some of their basic principles."
Dr. McClary also has seven tips to keeping romance alive:
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