Lovemaking doesn't start when you crawl in between the sheets. It starts before you even get out of bed. What you do throughout the day either enhances or decreases your chance for intimacy. Kissbefore leaving for work. Meet for lunch. Call in the middle of the day. Smile at each other. Little things go a long way in getting you and your partner in the mood.
If your partner has ever said, "The only time you touch me is when you want to have sex," you are not paying attention to non-sexual touch. When there is a lot of non-sexual touch, it makes sexual touch more exciting and more desirable. Non-sexual touch can be rubbing her shoulders or feet as you watch a movie, resting your hand on his lap while driving, or holding hands.
If 100 people wrote their top ten turn-ons, I bet that 99% of them listed something relating to how a person looks. So keep looking good! Forget about, "If he loved me, he would love me even in sweats." He might love you is sweats, but he won't be as turned on.
Smelling good is sexy. When your partner smells good, it makes you want to get closer. When you are close, chemical reactions can happen and ignite a fire! Really! I am talking about pheromones, the chemical Viagra. If you've seen male dogs rather 'round a female in heat, you know the power of pheromones. Being too sweaty can cancel out and mask their effectiveness. So be clean and let the "love scent" do its work.
People stop talking when they feel the other isn't listening. This is a major intimacy killer. When share your inner thoughts and feelings or listen while your partner speaks of his day, you create intimacy that is needed for good sex.
If your partner wants to do something or go somewhere, tag along. The more time you spend together, the more opportunity you have to cozy up, touch, and have good conversation. A pleasant day spent with the one you love is a powerful aphrodisiac.
Knowing that you have a date can heighten anticipation and make lovemaking more fun.
You can plan and be spontaneous too. Add some spice by dressing differently, putting on a wig, talking with an accent, or going somewhere on a whim. Fantasize and take your fun where you find it.
When you are rested and fit, you will have more energy and desire for love so you can give and receive more.
Forget about kids, work, or your "to do" list. Turn off the brain activity and let lovemaking be your escape. It will help you unwind, refresh, and keep you looking forward to the next time!
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