Have you ever wondered what happened to the prince/princess that you started dating a while back? Did your soulmate turn into a stalemate? If you want to rekindle the fire in your relationship or sustain it, we have some tips!
Turn a stalemate into a soulmate!
2. Give the greatest gift: Just like a camp fire where logs need to be constantly added to keep the fire alive, your relationship's fire needs those logs of attention or else the flame, the passion, will run out. You probably know how an inattentive audience can eat the confidence of a performer like a parasite. Likewise, your inattentiveness can chew your soulmate's enthusiasm and passion like a cancer chews on white cells. Be an attentive audience to your soulmate by turning off cell phones, unplugging house phones, faxes, TVs and radios while you are spending time with him/her.
3. Spend time together:
4. Become interesting:
5. Do something different: People get bored of routines. The reason that new relationships are so wonderful is because there is a sense of newness to everything you do together. After a while, that sense of newness needs to be generated. Take a weekend road trip to another state, visit a new restaurant in another town, or interview friends about what they do for their pastime; you might find some healthy things that you can incorporate to your list of fun things to do. Make newness a goal of your relationship or your relationship might become a boring routine.
6. Postpone your anger: Speak when you're angry, and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret. As Albert Einstein once said, "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them." Postpone dealing with what angers you today until tomorrow; you will be more objective and save yourself the regret of hurting someone you care for. After all, who likes to be around an angry guard dog for life? If you are patient in a moment of anger, you will escape a hundred years of sorrow.
7. Be playful: As Plato once said, "You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation." If you add some playtime to your relationship, you will connect with your significant other on a deeper level, which can make a difference in the way he/she relates to you. Who doesn't like to be part of a playful environment? Think of three ways to be more playful in your relationship. Then, implement them today.
8. Do unto others: The golden rule of "Do unto others as you would like others to do unto you" does not always apply. At times, you do things to a significant other that you would enjoy, if someone would do them to you, but your loved one might hate those things. A good rule to follow is do unto others as others want to be done unto. While being the center of the world can make you feel important, it might turn off your soulmate who is more intimate and reserved. Find out from your soulmate, what is it that he/she wants? Then do onto him/her as he/she wants to be done onto.
9. Exemplify, don't criticize: There has never been a statue erected to honor a critic. Your soulmate will avoid and resent you, if you are constantly criticizing him/her. If you want to correct his/her behavior, do not be critical but rather a model of your desired behavior. Personalize the behavior. Others are more influenced by your behaviors than by your criticism. Remember what Mahatma Gandhi said, "We must be the change we want to see in the world." What behavior are you going to exemplify today?
10. Soulmate day: While it's nice to celebrate your anniversary every year, it's even nicer to celebrate it every month. Why not give each other an excuse to celebrate and do fun things together more often. Separate a day out of the week and label it SOULMATE DAY. Make it a necessity for you to spend that day with your significant other doing something fun. Remember, fun elongates the life of your relationship. A relationship without fun can become as lifeless as a cemetery.
11. Create a welcoming environment: If you ever visited an unwelcoming restaurant, chances are you never went back to it. No one would. Yet we frequently create those unwelcoming environments at home for our significant others, when we scold, nag and pick on them. It is an unwelcoming environment that has our soulmates wanting to spend more time away with friends or, even worse, with any other person who can create what we refuse to create -- a more pleasant, welcoming environment. What three things can you start or stop doing to create a more welcoming environment? Do them TODAY.