For some, romance comes easily and naturally. For others, being romantic can be difficult at best. Whether extremely capable or a bit bumbling, we all need to make an effort to keep the romance alive and well in our relationships.
Simply put, you need not be a poet to write a love letter. You don't have to be gourmet chef to prepare a candle lit dinner for two. As long as what you do or say comes from the heart, you can't go wrong. Additionally, it's often the little things that say the most, so don't feel being romantic takes a grand gesture or requires an expensive gift - that's just not the case. Sometimes hiding a simple love note for your partner to find during the day is all it takes to make them feel wanted and special.
Drawing a blank?
I would guess even the greatest lovers of all time drew a blank occasionally when it came to coming up with a great romantic notion. When this happens, we're probably putting too much thought into the WHAT, rather than the HOW. When we concentrate only on what type of romantic gesture to make, this can often be a block to the free flow of ideas. If we approach the problem from a different perspective - considering HOW we want our partner to feel, suddenly ideas begin to come to mind. This gives us a frame work of sorts to build upon. Give it a try the next time you find yourself searching for a good romantic idea.
We also need to consider our partner's likes and dislikes, and what would be meaningful to them. Remember, this is about them, not us. (Pssst... Guys: Although sexy lingerie is wonderful, are you really buying it for your partner, or for yourself?) Often, if we keep our eyes and ears open, our partners will give us clues to what they find romantic, etc. Sometimes the very things they do for us are a good indication of what they would like us to do for them.
Conveying your love
Being romantic is nothing more than the means by which we convey to our partners all the loving thoughts and feelings we have for them in our hearts and minds. Even for those of us who find it difficult to express these things, it's important to try, and try often. Your partner will love you for it, and your relationship will flourish because of it.
That's the thing about relationships, like anything else, the more effort and thought we put into them, the better they become. Now go out there and put a little romance in your relationship!