How To Express Yourself
How often do you count the ways you love your spouse? In the beginning of a relationship, you may flood each other with tokens of your feelings, but as time goes by, there are new ways to say "I love you." Author T. W. Winslow explains.
Love lettersWhen my wife and I were first dating (more years ago than I'd like to admit), we frequently exchanged love letters, little romantic gifts, and other such things to express how much we cared for each other. With the passing years, though our love has grown immensely, the number of love letters and such has decreased considerably. I guess that's typical in most long term relationships.
When relationships are new, we tend to express our love in dramatic ways - through cards, flowers, love letters and other romantic gestures. This is wonderful and is part of what makes a new romance so fun and exciting. But this romantic exuberance is difficult to maintain. The expressions of love, which were so common initially, dwindle with time as our lives and relationships grow increasingly complicated and we focus on more than just the one we love.
This isn't to say we love our partners any less. In fact for most, our love and commitment only deepens with time. But if this is true, why then don't we continue to flood our partners with expressions of our love? Perhaps we feel these things are no longer necessary - that our partners should know how we feel. Maybe as our lives become more complicated, we find it difficult to make time for such things. Or it just might be possible our expressions of love haven't really slowed, but rather have merely changed and become less obvious.
See if some of these don't ring a bell:
These things may not be as romantic as a love letter or as exciting as being surprised with a dozen roses, but they do say just as loudly, "I love you."