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7 Benefits to marrying someone older than you

Lisa Fogarty


Lisa Fogarty

Lisa Fogarty has written numerous articles for USA Today, The Stir, Opposing Views and other publications. She has covered everything from red carpet events to the discovery of toxic PCBs on school windows. She lives on Long Island, N.Y....

Marrying someone older than you doesn't automatically make you a gold digger

When some folks hear about a younger woman marrying an older man, they automatically think, "gold digger!" But, aside from the fact that love is ageless, they are neglecting some amazing reasons why marrying an older partner is a good idea.

1. It's ideal if you don't want children

If you've decided kids aren't for you, you may have a difficult time convincing a younger partner to accept this idea. An older partner who has either already been married and had children, or who has had time to contemplate children and knows with certainty he doesn't want little ones, may be the ideal match for you.

2. Older is sexier... Sometimes

It's one of those unfair facts of life, but when a man takes care of himself, he can actually look better with age. More distinguished. Exhibit A: Rob Lowe. Exhibit B: John Stamos.

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3. Less likely to play games

An older partner has, you would hope, already sowed their wild oats and is in the market for a more serious relationship they can take seriously.

4. You're the younger woman. Game over.

You know that joke about older men chasing younger women? Well, ahem, look in the mirror. The benefit of being younger than your spouse is that, as vain as it sounds, it can be an incredible confidence booster.

5. You can learn from your partner

The greatest lesson we can learn in life is how to be present. Many older men and women have figured out that you have to stop and take pleasure in where you are right now, instead of constantly racing to get to the next place in your journey. It also doesn't hurt that you'll hear stories about another period in time that is unfamiliar to you. You'll always feel like you're learning.

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6. And they can learn from you

Don't think that, just because you have less life experience, you don't have as much to offer — nothing could be farther from the truth! Maybe your youthful exuberance inspires your spouse to try things he/she thought he was long past attempting, like skydiving or just taking a cooking lesson. Or, perhaps, you're opening his mind to explore new ideas and concepts that were taboo when he was younger. Your mind and experiences are equally as important and valued as his.

7. Good, no great, sex

A more experience and mature partner knows exactly what turns them on and takes mental notes about what turns you on. An experienced sex partner is often a patient, loving and experimental. And that means you both get to go to bed every night with huge smiles on your faces.

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