Pregnancy is one of life's most momentous changes. And while it may seem unbelievable that someone who loves you would leave you when you need him the most, the book What's Your Pregnant Man Thinking? suggests a commonly-quoted statistic — that as many as one in 10 men may stray when their spouses are pregnant — could be true. Psychologists and relationship experts have clamoured to come up with reasons why this might be. Here are just a few.
The basic gist of this argument, scoff as we might, is that men are genetically wired to deposit their seed in as many women as possible. Therefore, a few of them see their own impregnated wife as a success story and move on to repeat that success... immediately. Arguably, this is a prehistoric mindset in a modern age.
Pregnancy leaves many women with body confidence issues, plain discomfort or niggling fears that prevent couples from enjoying their "regular" sexual patterns and frequency. This may make some insecure men paranoid and they may seek to fill their unmet needs elsewhere.
A woman undergoes incredible physical and emotional changes during pregnancy and, while we're not forgiving childbearing cheats, men have serious stress, too. But — as with an infamous case of man flu — sometimes men feel their stress and their needs are very severe and they feel neglected. Some may choose to deal with it by seeking relevance in the eyes of a new flame, however temporary and destructive this may be.
He's a man and he has fantasies. But now that you're going to be the mother of his children, perhaps he wants to save you from the dirtier stuff and protect your role as a mum.
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