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20 sext messages no one is disappointed to receive

Krissy Brady is a women’s health + lifestyle writer who’s so out of shape, it’s like she has the innards of an 80-year-old. Instead of learning how to crochet, she decided to turn her emotional baggage into a writing career (genius, no?)...

How to become a sexting pro (like, now)

For those of us who aren't even that great at talking dirty, sexting sounds like that dream where you show up at school in your underwear. To make matters worse, there's always going to be a digital record of that time you tried to spice things up and sounded a lot more awkward than naughty.

Not to worry — there are plenty of us in the same boat. We spend all day with a cell phone in hand, but the thought of using said cell phone for sexy time sounds downright horrifying. But all nervousness aside, there are some big benefits to sexting. For starters, it can make it easier to break into the dirty talk if you find yourself to be on the shyer side face-to-face. Sexting can also be a clever way to rev up a long-term relationship that's in need of a jumpstart (or just a jump).

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According to 2015 research presented at the American Psychological Association’s 123rd Annual Convention, up to 88 percent of adults are sexting. If you're new to the game, here's how to join in on the fun:

The rules of how to sext are simple:

  1. Don't sext with a person you've never had actual sex with. Being a sexting pro means knowing what he likes and being familiar with his comfort level.
  2. Keep your texts concise. Short messages. Direct descriptions. You're not writing a Harlequin romance novel.
  3. Autocorrect is not your friend. Texting that you want to "duck" will make his penis (or her vagina) want to start dating other vaginas.
  4. Start out with light, flirty texts, then work your way up to the steamy ones. Consider it digital foreplay.

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Ready to get started, dear grasshopper? Of course you are! Here are a few (OK, 20) sexting examples you can use as a jumping off point:

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