You're both in your 20s or 30s, so yes on the surface this question seems totally wacko — but not only will it give you both a good laugh, you might be surprised by what you both want. "It's a great way to get to know your partner as well as yourself," says Masini.
Whether this question leads to confessions of wanting to run away from your families this year, or admit you really do enjoy the tradition, it's a question that will allow your minds to open up to new possibilities in your relationship (especially if you feel like you're on the verge of a rut).
"It's very difficult for couples to get out of sexual ruts, especially when mostly everything else is going well," says Masini. "By simply asking, you've started the ball rolling." Plus, it'll help you gauge how daring you can be in other areas of your life together.
OK, so this is a question that terrifies men, but live a little. If he answers honestly and you can tell there's no sugar coating, he's more likely to be honest in other situations as well.
If your guy can compliment another woman without worrying about looking like a cheater, then he's probably not a cheater.
"If he doesn't get defensive after hearing this question and can look you in the eye to answer, it's a good thing," says Moffit. "Financial issues are a common point of contention in many relationships, so it's important to check on your financial openness with your partner."
If he immediately tries to preserve your "beauty" without considering why you want to cut your hair or get a breast reduction (i.e., your back is always in pain), think twice about what he really sees in you. Also…
If he starts panting or cuts you a check to "pitch in," run. Run away now. (And buy yourself something pretty with the check.)
If he starts twitching when you ask this, it's not likely he's thought about a future with you.
If he resists (unless you're into shy guys), he probably has anxiety at the thought of a wedding… to you.
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