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A guide to buying your first sex toy

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Sex toy shopping 101

There's no need to feel embarrassed or intimidated when purchasing your first sex toy. The experience can be, and should be, totally empowering. After all, it's all about getting what you want.
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Go to a respectable store

If you have a preconceived notion of what an "adult boutique" looks like (say, a dingy, dimly-lit store with a creepy clerk eyeing you while you browse as he flips through a porno mag from behind the counter), you need to ditch that notion and find out what's really out there. Today's adult boutiques, such as Hustler Hollywood, are fun, classy and high-end stores that are filled with so much more that just sex toys — and no creepy clerks.

You can find sexy clothes and shoes, costumes and all kinds of sexy products in addition to a wide selection of toys and movies. Don't sell yourself short when it comes to the adult store you choose in which to purchase your first sex toy — it will make all the difference as to how your experience goes... not to mention subsequent sex toy shopping trips.

Let go

Let go of any guilt, shame or embarrassment about buying your first sex toy. Every woman deserves to find sexual pleasure — with a partner as well as on her own. And there is nothing wrong with that. Today's upscale adult boutiques are designed to be welcoming and accommodating to women so you can rest assured that you'll find something that tickles your fancy.

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Don't go it alone

If you're a little nervous about purchasing your first sex toy, ask a good friend to accompany you. In this case, choose a friend who's "experienced" when it comes to going sex toy shopping so she can advise you on what to look for when it comes to the selection of products designed just for your pleasure. The endless array of options can be overwhelming when you don't know what you're looking for so it's good to have a partner in crime in tow who can encourage you to relax and trust your (sexual) instincts.

Know what turns you on

Speaking of knowing what to look for — it's also important to know your body, and what turns you on — so you can choose a sex toy that will maximize your pleasure. There are toys designed to help a woman climax in a number of ways — whether via the clitoris, vagina or both. Spend a little time exploring your body on your own (without the use of toys first) so you can determine where you gain the most pleasure. That way, when you do your sex toy shopping you'll know what kind of toy you should bring home.

If you're shy, buy online

If you've gotten past the embarrassment or guilt of purchasing your first sex toy but are still too shy to venture into an adult boutique, shop online. You can have nearly anything delivered to your door via the internet these days and many adult boutiques are sensitive to their customers' privacy when it comes to sending out packages.

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The most important thing to remember about buying your first sex toy is that it's all about fun and pleasure. Don't feel pressured to buy something that you don't feel comfortable with and don't be afraid to ask questions to ensure you get the right toy for you.

This post was sponsored by Hustler Hollywood.

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