'Om' your way to an O
Finding your center takes on a whole new meaning
"Sex is a form of yoga," says Patricia Taylor, Ph.D., author of Expanded Orgasm. "In yoga, you want to integrate the mind, the heart, the body and the spirit, and you want to connect them all up... It's almost more of a question of how you approach it versus what the position is. With that focus, you can be relaxed, you can breathe, you can have eye contact with your partner, and you can have an emotional connection."
Being mindful of that, take what you've learned on the mat and apply it to the mattress.
Reclining bound angle pose
How you do it: Lie on your back, and surround yourself with pillows, then open your legs in a butterfly position, knees resting on the pillows. Widen your feet so he can assume missionary position.
Why it's awesome: "Before the guy even touches you, you can just lie there and do your breathing and connect up with yourself," Taylor says. "You're very relaxed, you're breathing, there’s a lot of eye contact. He’s able to reach your G spot, and this can be a very long-lasting, pleasurable position that can go on for quite a while."
Happy baby pose
How you do it: Lie back, then raise your legs above your head, bending them at the knees, essentially throwing your legs over your head (or close to it), knees close to your ears. Have him enter you missionary-style. Encourage him to rock back and forth rather than jackhammer you.
Why it's awesome: This is a deeper, more vigorous experience if that's the sex you're craving, and it puts him in control. Taylor says this position gives him "deep access to your G spot and her clitoris, and I think the rocking motion is really nice. The woman is really relaxing, being taken by the man, and she’s not doing a lot of work."
How you do it: Get on all fours and arch your back. Have him enter you from behind and vary the speed of his thrusting.
Why it's awesome: "You’re really going into deep animal space," Taylor says. "By playing with your clitoris — not the whole time, but I would say by bringing that in — you become multiorgasmic. It will turn the guy on, and it’ll give him the ability to slow down and not lose his erection, which will give you more variety. So it won’t just be like pounding, but it gives you both the opportunity to savor this movement of the symphony: slow sections, and the fast, and the soft, and the sweet, and the intense."
How you do it: Stand against a wall or in the shower (don't slip!). Then raise one foot, bending your knee and rotating your hip outward, then placing your foot on the opposite inner thigh. Raise your hands straight above your head, about shoulder width apart. (Grasp the wall or a bookshelf if you need to.) Have him kneel at your feet and go down on you.
Why it's awesome: If you can keep your balance (all those classes are coming in handy now, see?) the novel sensation of standing up, rather than lying on the bed and passively receiving, will make sex seem new and novel, increasing your excitement.
Corpse pose (After sex only!)
How you do it: We're joking around a bit, but after you've done the deed, you can use the afterglow time to lie back, close your eyes, and — just like the pose's name says — play "dead" and connect your mind with your body.
Why it's awesome: You've totally earned this restorative pose after all that position-switching. Then snore away, baby!
Images illustrated by Amy Berlak