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5 Secrets to keeping the man you love

Dr. Sherrie Campbell is an author of Loving Yourself and a licensed Psychologist with more than nineteen years of clinical training and experience. She provides practical tools to help people overcome obstacles to self-love and truly ach...

Why you should love yourself first

As women, we love love. We are taught from a very young age that being in love is a defining factor but, unfortunately, many women lose the men they love because they are too in love with love and not in love enough with themselves.
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Put your life first and establish a social life outside of the relationship.

The quickest way to lose a man’s interest is to make him your number one priority. This is not attractive to men who inherently need, desire and want a challenge. Too many women give up their lives for their man and in doing this they become uninteresting. Keep your lives ladies. You have wonderful lives, friends and passions. Never sacrifice those things for a relationship. The more full you are and the more you love yourself, the more your man will love you too.

1

Break routine

We are all creatures of habit and familiarity can feel really good. But don't allow your relationship to get stagnant by always doing what you think your boyfriend wants. Be committed to your life first and then fit him in. This will make you much happier as a person and more attractive to him.

2

Be confident and turn away from him at times

If you feel your man is becoming distant or not as interested, this is a sign that he is becoming bored in the relationship. If he is bored and you check yourself, you will probably see that you are also bored, so all it takes is a little turning away from him, be a little aloof and he will come looking for you. Remember, men are like cats, if you ignore them, they will come and purr at your feet but if you constantly give them attention, they will go away into a solitary place.

3

Know when to stop talking

Many women live by “communication.” This floods the simple male brain. Men are very basic in the way they think, as science shows, they only use one half of the brain where women have access to both halves. We are designed differently, so we as women need to learn to respect this. Silence allows your man to realize that something may be wrong and this will get him curious enough to ask, which is what you want — then keep it simple.

4

Don’t chase him

As the old adage states, whatever you chase will run away. Women get needy and desperate and they end up chasing their men. This is not attractive and it shows that you do not value yourself. If you love yourself and you value who you are, then there is no need to chase anyone. Stay contained. If he is pulling away, ignore him. Give him space and he will think. He will also see that you are not in “need” of him and this will pull him back to you.

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The bottom line

To keep your man interested, you have to be interesting. To be interesting, you must be passionate about your life, your career, your friends, your children and your hobbies. A great mistake is to make your man your hobby.

A little life message: Love yourself first, love him next and you will have great success.

Read more from Sherrie!

You can buy her book Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being your Own Person on Amazon.

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