A best friend can be a wonderful support to a relationship, or she can consistently undermine the relationship's overall health — and many best friends fall somewhere in between.
For better or worse
How can you assess whether or not your BFF is influencing your relationship for the better?
The perspective of a best friend
There's a special place in each woman's heart for her best friend. A best friend is a confidant, a supporter and a buddy through good and bad times. A best friend is also an influencer of your life and relationships, because she has invested her time, energy and care in your life. As a result, she's bound to have an opinion about your choices.
So how can you know if your bestie is influencing your relationship in a good way or a bad way?
Your best friend influences your insight
Best friends usually have a wealth of opinions about romantic partners. Insight isn't a bad thing. The insight of a loving friend can prevent you from diving head first into a bad marriage, or it could protect you from a pattern of negative thinking that derails a good marriage. So how do you know if your best friend's insight is accurate and beneficial to both you and the relationship?
Your best friend influences your time
Especially at the beginning of a relationship, best friends have many opinions about how you should use your time and energy. We get it. Puppy love is a time suck and that means less time for girls' night out. But if your friend nags you about spending more time together, she could either be 1) protecting you from going too quickly into a serious relationship, or 2) expressing jealousy. So how do you know which one it is?
Your best friend influences the ending of relationships
No one goes into a relationship hoping that it will fail, but sometimes it's time to call it quits. Girlfriends are awesomely supportive during a breakup, but they can also influence the timing of the breakup. Before you listen to your best friend's advice about ending a relationship — lest you do so prematurely — think through the following:
If you have thought through the ways in which your bestie influences your relationship and have determined that she is a source of sound advice and support, don't hesitate to share the ups and downs of your romantic relationships with her.
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