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the rules of dating Changing with time

Long before there was sexting and casual encounters, there was "courting" and "dating." This may have worked for women 50 years ago, but today women are gaining more independence and searching for more equality in their relationships.

Sure, your mom may be convinced those old-fashioned dating rituals work, but the world of contemporary dating is telling us it's time to welcome new rules of engagement and say goodbye to old-fashioned customs. Here are five old-fashioned rituals we are glad to see go.

The three-day rule

The dreaded wait. "Don't text him — wait three days before calling him." We've all heard it before and we've probably all done it before. Well, good news — we're happy to announce that this dating ritual is done. If you have a great first date, don't be afraid to send him a text the next day to let him know.

Waiting to be intimate

It used to be that being intimate with someone too soon would disqualify you from being considered girlfriend material. But not anymore. Today, women are more comfortable than ever with their sexualities and more willing to experiment in the bedroom before being in a relationship or making a serious commitment.

Paying for the bills

Women have come a long way since the '50s. While women once were required to stay home, today they are allowed to work and earn their own money, making them the breadwinners in their relationships in many cases. It's all about 50/50 and setting the tone that you're an equal partner.

He does the asking

Long before the days of cell phones and social networking sites, men would ask women to "go steady," whereby a woman would wear her boyfriend's club pin to express their exclusivity. Today, women no longer wear pins — and in many cases they make the first move, asking the man out.

Dating a younger man

Age ain't nothing but a number... right? Dating a younger man can make a woman feel empowered and more confident with herself. While it hasn't always been accepted, we have started to see more and more women gravitate toward much younger members of the opposite sex.

Remember: As we say goodbye to some outdated dating rules and rituals, we welcome some new ones. Whether you are looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now, here are some of our favorites:

  • Sexting — Whether sending a risqué photo or racy text, sexting can be a great way to spice up any relationship.
  • Online dating — With the evolution of the internet comes the evolution of online dating. With dozens of dating sites, online dating offers everything from a casual fling to long-term commitment.
  • Dating a co-worker — Many think office romances are taboo, but we disagree. Social and work lives often blur together. Our recommendation: Date a co-worker at your own risk.

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Comments on "Outdated dating rituals we're glad went away"

Ax September 27, 2013 | 1:59 AM

Snyder writes: "While women once were required to stay home, today they are allowed to work and earn their own money." ALLOWED to work and earn? Is she talking about Iraq or somewhere still oppressively patriarchal? Maybe the writer should vet her assumptions a bit more...

Roisin September 19, 2013 | 9:31 AM

I disagree with ting. Also with not waiting to be intimate. ting is way too risky and being intimate too soon is ,in my opinion,just ty.

MRS September 16, 2013 | 5:40 AM

I think this is terrible advice... "send risque photos"--how much heartache has this caused by people forwarding your photos after you break up, or by sharing them with the press when you are running for mayor?... and this gem, "don't wait to be intimate"--"experiment in the bedroom before you are in a relationship"---was this advice written by a man? I certainly don't think it was written by someone who has women's best interests in mind. Is that what women are? objects? Animals in heat? According to your entire website, the answer is yes.

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