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Sex is natural. Sex is fun. But sex can also be confusing! We've got answers to your most common sex questions — even the ones you're too embarrassed to ask your doctor about.

Sex: What's
up with that?

Can your sexual partner tell if you're a virgin?

Most people will not be able to tell whether or not you are a virgin. A woman has a thin membrane, called the hymen, that partially closes the opening of the vagina and is believed to be the marking factor of whether or not she is a virgin. However, some women's hymens are thinner than others and can break during nonsexual activities like horseback riding.

Is it OK to have sex while you're on your period?

As long as you and your partner are both OK with getting busy while you're on your period, there is nothing wrong with it. However, don't just spring it on your partner when you're already heavily engaged in foreplay. If he makes a move while you're on your period, let him know and see how he reacts. The good news is that sex during your period actually has the potential to alleviate menstrual discomfort like cramps and headaches. Bonus!

If your partner does seem squeamish about doing the deed during your period, don't let it stop you from participating in other forms of sexual fun.

Does oral sex count as sex?

There is just no definitive answer to this question, as every person seems to define oral sex in his or her own mind. However, you cannot get pregnant during oral sex, so it is a fun way to engage in sexual activity without "going all the way."

Can you have an orgasm without having sex?

Yes, yes, yes! Women and men can have orgasms during fun foreplay without engaging in intercourse.

Why do I sometimes feel like I have to pee during sex?

Women often report feeling like they might accidentally pee during sex. While this could be a result of the man's penis putting pressure on a woman's bladder, it could also be a sign that the big O is approaching! Stimulation of the G-spot can sometimes make a woman feel like she has to pee until the area reaches the point of swelling... then the gotta-go feeling should subside and give way to a much, much better feeling.

Do I have to be on birth control all the time if I don't have sex that often?

No. If you only have sexual encounters rarely, you don't have to be on birth control all the time. Plan B, which can prevent pregnancy for up to five days after sex, can now be purchased over the counter.

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Comments on "Questions about sex you've always wanted to ask"

Darla December 18, 2013 | 11:56 AM

My OB/GYN recommended Olive Oil as a lube. She said if I wanted to feel 'naughty'; go for "Extra Virgin Olive Oil". LOL

Elp December 14, 2013 | 9:23 PM

Hi Maurie, There could be a few reasons that are causing your problem. One could be that you and your husband are not engaging in enough foreplay. Women often take a bit more time and effort to get warmed up. Another reason could simply be that you don't produce enough lubrication- which is common for many women. So if increased foreplay doesn't make the cut alone, I would recommend lubricants. You can purchase them at adult shops, Target, CVS, online, etc. I would recommend a natural/organic lubricant to avoid any irritation. Do some research to find out whether a water-based lubricant or a silicone-based lubricant is right for your needs. The last reason could be medical, in which case you would want to see your OBGYN. They will be able to help you much more thoroughly- it's worth the visit! Write down any and all questions you have for them, and ask for recommendations, etc. Best of luck! And remember- don't worry too much, just enjoy yourself. :)

Maurie December 01, 2013 | 7:39 AM

During foreplay I get very sore and dry quickly and not able to satisfly my husband.We have been married for seventeen years and have two kids.My husband works shift work and only gets one day off..which is Sunday.I have tried different things to help me ,but sometimes it works.I hope that you can help me.

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