Are We Having Fun Yet?
We’ve never taken each other too seriously and maybe that’s why we get along so well. Not being uptight makes life more enjoyable and satisfying, and it also helps to combat those stressful days where things don’t seem to go right. Whether it's work or home life, one of our main strategies for a healthy and happy relationship has been about putting the fun into everything we can.
Here are some of our tips for having more fun in your relationship that we have found have worked for us and might be something that could freshen up your romance:
Laugh more, complain less
Happy people create fun. Fun lightens relationships, and healthy relationships lead to more productive lives. It's all intertwined. Whatever it takes to laugh -- whether it is reminiscing about something funny, telling jokes or pulling faces with each other -- is essential to happiness. You'll be so busy laughing that you will forget what was stressing you out or causing you anxiety. It will also remind you why you fell in love with each other.
Threaten to tickle your partner
Just the thought of this can start the laughter rolling. The anticipation can be hysterical. Many times you may need to follow through with the actual tickle threat to create an air of fun. So often, we forget to touch each other and be playful. This again is a way to show love and affection while lightening the mood.
Put fun time on the schedule
Whether it is happy hour and a snack after work or a tee time on the weekend or a day at the amusement park with the kids, plan ahead and put some fun activities on the calendar. This provides some relief from work because you can think about something fun coming up that you will be doing with your spouse or with the whole family. The anticipation goes a long way to helping alleviate the current stress you might have at work.
Surprise your spouse
Even if they tell you they don't like surprises, they really do. It doesn't have to be anything big like a new car with a bow on it. Think personal and be creative. Of course, if you need help, "just because" flowers delivered to work or a special homemade dinner consisting of your spouse's favorite dishes are two ideas that always do the trick!
While it is important to schedule and plan for fun, there is a lot to be said for throwing out the plan and going with the moment. Think of a quick weekend road trip or last-minute seats to a concert. Even picking up and leaving work early for the day to spend time with the family is a great spontaneous way to show your love.
Being too serious leads to forgetting what is really important. And, that is the love and support you have in your partner and in your family. They are there to be enjoyed and for you to bring them joy. Have fun and save the seriousness for your next work meeting or conference call!
The CEO Couple Ed and Ellen Schack are living examples of work/life/family balance based on key principles that foster a healthy marriage, business growth and managing the rigor of everyday life: Respect, Communication, Partnership, Fun, Family, Faith, Balance and Well-Being combined with many operational components of business like Strategy, Vision and Competition. They may be reached online at www.theceocouple.com and via Twitter #theceocouple.
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