Don't worry, though, you can guide your man along the way and teach him how to perform oral sex the right way! He can become a better lover. He just needs to realize that no two women are exactly alike. What might have worked on his ex-girlfriend might not necessarily work for you.
What your man needs to do is follow these tips to find out what works for you and what doesn't.
The most important thing a man can do is ASK a woman what she likes. Guys are too afraid to ask their girlfriends what they like because they don't want to come off sounding inexperienced. Well, he's going to come off as inexperienced anyway if he tries performing oral sex without first asking you about your preferences.
Don't jump onto her vagina or clit right away. First, warm her up by teasing her all over. Start out kissing her mouth and then kiss her cheeks and neck. Work your way down her body. Caress her with your hands. Try to make the experience as romantic and sensual as possible. Oral sex is more than just going down on her.
Take things slow. Don't act like a hungry, slobbery brute. Once you make it to her clit and vagina, gently lick all around. You don't have to be rough with your mouth unless she wants you to. It's always best to start off slow, unless she specifically requests otherwise. Some women do like it when you roughly use your tongue and mouth, but only do so if she asks.
Try the reverse hug technique. This shouldn't be too hard if you're in good shape. You'll need to hold her upside down in front of you. Her head and shoulders should rest on the bed, and her back should rest against your chest and stomach. Hold her up a bit so that she won't feel too much pressure around her neck. Just wrap your arms around her stomach and lower your face between her legs.
Try the doggy greet technique. This technique involves a combination of oral sex and doggystyle. While in the doggystyle position, pull out of her when she is close to having an orgasm. Then, you hurry and lower your head towards her clit and use your tongue until she has orgasm. Once she has the orgasm, enter her again. Basically, you go back and forth between using your tongue and penis. If done right, she should have multiple orgasms!
Another fun oral position to try is under the sink. She stands right next to the side of the bed and squats down. There should just be enough room for you to lay on your back on the bed and place your head between her legs. She is mostly in control of her own pleasure. She can squat further, tilt, lean back, etc. This position is pretty easy for you both to do. She just needs to give you enough room so that you don't strain your neck.
These are just a few examples of the many oral sex techniques and positions you and your man can try. As long as you are willing to experiment and try new things with your guy, he should be able to give you a very strong orgasm.
Heather Jennings has been helping couples for years take their sex up a notch. If you're looking for tips on how to give oral sex or to just improve your lovemaking techniques, be sure to check out more of her work.
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