Huma Abedin Sticks By Anthony Weiner
Should you ever stick by a serial cheater? Anthony Weiner's wife is, but that doesn't mean it's the right choice for you.
Once a cheater, always a cheater?
It certainly seems that way when it comes to New York mayoral candidate Anthony Weiner. A 20-something woman told gossip website The Dirty that the politician carried on a sexting relationship with her last year, starting about six months after he resigned from the U.S. House of Representatives for sending explicit photos to a variety of women.
The problem? He's been married the whole time.
Weiner's wife, Huma Abedin, stuck by him after the first scandal — they even welcomed a child in 2012. Weiner seemed to turn over a new leaf as a family man, but apparently his obsession with selfies of his down-below never stopped.
Abedin is still sticking by him, though.
"We discussed all of this before he decided to run for mayor, so really what I want to say is, I love him, I have forgiven him, I believe in him, and as we have said from the beginning, we are moving forward," Hillary Clinton's former aide said during a press conference earlier this week.
She expanded on her views in an essay for the Harper Bazaar September issue:
It seems like Abedin has her own reasons — and her own agenda, if you believe some political watchers — for staying in the relationship, but her willingness to stick by a serial cheater doesn't send a good message to women in similar situations, says psychotherapist and divorce expert Deborah Hecker, Ph.D.
"Serial cheating and a trusting partnership are, by definition, incompatible," Dr. Hecker tells SheKnows. "If a woman is seeking an intimate, monogamous relationship with someone who is unable to make a sexual commitment to her, she is barking up the wrong tree."
Dealing with betrayal
Such a betrayal in a relationship breaks trust and causes serious trauma, but Dr. Hecker has a few tips for dealing with the pain.
"Sometimes a relationship needs to fall apart to rebuild it in a stronger, more durable way," adds Dr. Hecker. "On another note, one must question why they are attracted to a cheater and why they can't break free."
Dr. Hecker also has a few words of advice for Abedin.
"In order for Huma to make the right decision about staying with her husband or not, she must fully understand the nature of his problems and consider his willingness to seek help," she says. "Once Huma recognizes that he has a treatable psychiatric problem, which may likely involve relapse, she can stand by him most effectively by encouraging his need for medical help."
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