There's a new moon in Cancer on July 8. The new moon is the only time of the month when we cannot see her in the sky. This is when the moon passes in front of the sun and effectively “disappears.” A new moon creates a blind spot in the sky and one in your perception as well. You may be totally in the dark about someone's feelings toward you or clueless about how your genuine concern could be misinterpreted as a come-on. New moons are famous for hidden sides of ourselves coming out. They're also famous for secret get-togethers, forbidden love affairs and teenagers trying to sneak out the bedroom window.
You don't do "needy." You pride yourself on being someone who never lets other people see her sweat. This is great for competing in marathons, scaling the ladder of success and flying to the rescue of friends in need, but it isn't always wonderful for love. If you present yourself as totally self-sufficient and independent, then what's the man there for? Guys like to feel needed. It makes them feel like manly men. Show a little vulnerability this week. You'll be amazed by what a turn-on this can be.
Sometimes friends can get weird, and right now it looks like you might want to introduce a little separateness in your togetherness. Not only has this person gotten clingy, but she seems hell-bent on spreading dissension and suspicion. Obviously she's projecting her own personal stuff onto you, but it's no use pointing this out while the new moon energy is so strong. She just can't see it. Wait until after the 15th when she's much more reasonable. By then she'll be wondering what got into her too.
The sun in Cancer stirs up a lot of unresolved issues dealing with your childhood home and family. That's because Cancer is ruled by the moon, the planet of memory. All of these feelings of rejection, competition and non-recognition will come back to haunt you and they could muddy the waters. Take timeouts this week to remind yourself that your lover is not your father and that co-workers aren't ganging up on you like the kids did in grade school. Stay in the present moment and you should be OK.
You need to stop talking to friends about the guy you're seeing and try talking to him instead. Isn't he the one you're supposed to be dating? Full emotional disclosure goes against every fiber of your being (Cancers are notoriously shy), but it's time to see if you're on the same page or not. Chances are you are and everything will turn out fine. And if you aren't? Then it will be a relief to have your life back. This constant craving was driving you and your friends nuts.
The new moon on July 8 will bring out all of your hidden anxieties and insecurities. It will feel like you're wearing your shirt inside out and that everything is on show for the world to see. Ironically nobody will believe you. That's because they see you as self-confident and charismatic. Your dark mood will pass, but it still poses the question: Do people like you for who you are or do they like the person that they expect you to be? This leads to some very heavy thinking.
An innocent favor could land you in hot water. You were born under Mercury, the messenger planet, which means that you are often asked to play the role of the go-between. You're the person who speaks on somebody else's behalf as you try to get the two sides who aren't talking to each other back to the negotiating table. This week, one of those sides may decide that he's romantically interested in you and not your best friend, sister or co-worker whom he's been dating. Awkward to say the least.
You believe that everything will turn out for the best if you step out of the way and let developments unfold on their own. People cause themselves unnecessary aggravation by making hasty decisions that they unmake later. It's why you take so long to make up your mind. You get flak for it, but your patience and unwavering faith in this Libran credo will be proven true on July 13 when someone who left in a huff repents and returns or a troubled love interest finally sees the light.
Why are the words "I'm sorry" so difficult to say? Most people would say that it's because you're a Scorpio and being a Scorpio means you have to be right all the time — like 24/7. Actually your aversion to apologizing comes from self-preservation. You're afraid that apologizing makes you look weak and weak people get stepped on or taken advantage of and you don't want that to happen to you. Nevertheless, saying "I'm sorry" isn't so hard. If anything, you'll be relieved. Plus it leads to fantastic make-up sex.
The weirdest things happen when the moon occults Mercury. This is when the unconscious mind holds sway — not the well-behaved one. You'll be in the mood to do the things that you'd never tell your friends about. This could lead you to have an affair (when you're already spoken for) or to jump right into the sack on the first date. Remember that the effects will be passing — just like the phases of the moon. The moon rules over our appetites which means that once satisfied, you're outta there.
The new moon in Cancer shows your lover or spouse going into a downward spiral. He will need your support and understanding. You're game for that but may quickly lose patience when he shoots down every one of your suggestions. Helpful hint: Don't expect him to be reasonable. What he needs is love and attention, not practical advice. The moon rules over our inner 2-year-old which is why he's being so cranky. You may have to let him run around in circles until he keels over in exhaustion.
You've been pretty absorbed with making a big life transition and have a lot on your mind. This is why it wouldn't be the worst idea to check in with your partner on the 10th to make sure that you guys are simpatico. Sometimes in your efforts to do right by someone, you can forget about the someone you're trying to do right by. Your man's been feeling neglected lately and a good talk would reconnect you. It could also do something else if you give him the go-ahead.
You'd better be out and about because this is one of the best times of year to fall in love. You have an extraordinary lineup of planets from July 13 through July 22 and don't want to miss out. If you have to schedule back-to-back dates for these eight days, then do it. Remember that this is more interview than entre-nous so don't rush to seal the deal. What you're doing is planting seeds because not all of them will sprout. You'll see signs of life on Aug. 4.
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