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9 Ways to get everything you want

Kate Eckman has spent much of her life in front of the camera.

Born and raised in Cincinnati, Ohio, she was voted, “Most likely to have her own TV talk show,” by her high school classmates. Friends and family describe Kate as fun-loving, ...

How to live the life you really want and get rid of negativity

Whatever your heart craves, you can attract it into your life. Love. Money. A relationship. Job. Acceptance. Validation. Forgiveness. Are you ready? You simply need to be what you crave.

If you want love in your life, be love.

Take yourself out on a date. Make yourself a delicious home-cooked meal. Buy yourself chocolate or fresh flowers. Take a bubble bath and light candles. In other words, romance yourself. Treat yourself to a massage, reiki session or trip to your favorite park or museum. Go to the movies. Write yourself a love poem. Make a cup of green tea. Buy yourself that rose-scented facial cream. Whatever makes you feel loved by others, do those things for yourself. You'll see those icky feelings of neediness, desperation and fear dissolve from your life and clear space for more love.

Some of the most powerful things you can do to love and honor yourself don't cost one penny.

8 More steps toward your new reality

  1. Forgive yourself — You did the best you could at the time. I forgive you.
  2. Accept yourself, flaws and all — You look beautiful today.
  3. Be your own standard of beauty — You decide what's beautiful.
  4. Validate yourself — You are good enough.
  5. Be proud of yourself — Great job today!
  6. Listen to yourself — You already know the answer. Just listen. Trust.
  7. Let yourself rest and relax — Learn to be still. Allow yourself time to recharge your batteries.
  8. Tell yourself, "I love you" — Look in the mirror and say, "I love you." Beating yourself up is no longer acceptable. It's a new day. Choose love.

Why these steps work to improve your life

There have been times in my life where I wanted to hear and feel these things so badly from another person. We can't control anything outside of our own thoughts and behavior, so if you're desperately craving love, attention, affection and forgiveness, give it to yourself first. It's also the quickest and easiest way to attract it into your life. The simple concept takes practice and commitment.

I used to think, "When I get that job/money/relationship/house/ring/apology, I'll be happy."

That mentality translates into: I will never be happy. Yikes!

The trick to having everything you want flow into your life is to be happy now! That is one of my favorite lessons from the late, great Dr. Wayne Dyer. Let me say it again, "Be happy now." Let that sink in for a second: be happy now.

Dyer would say, Act as if… ” you already have and are everything your heart desires. That's the sure-fire shortcut to attract abundance of any kind into your life. Be a magnet for miracles — not a repellant to them.

Having an abundant life happens when you align the thoughts you think on a consistent basis with the energy you put into the universe and with your actions. Commit to dwelling in a high-vibe, loving, joyful state and watch the beautiful people and situations you attract. Your daily life will feel more uplifting and fulfilling. Dwelling in this higher vibrational state can seem difficult at first, but commit to feeling your best and living the life of your dreams. The life you create will be well worth the effort, and you will get better and better at returning to your happy place quickly in times of stress.

Much peace, love and hugs!


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