And I don't know that my unevenness has a specific algorithm, but it certainly is rooted in some sort of subconscious rubric that I haven't yet committed to a spreadsheet. I'm sure it's not unlike a Words With Friends scoring mechanism:
The problem with this algorithm is that this is the first time I've made it known and public. So when one sibling gets a $50 gift from me and another gets a $20 gift, they're surprised. And more often than not, angry.
In many ways, it's not unlike a will.
So why do I feel guilty that I do more for some people than for others? Should I eliminate all emotion from the equation, publish my Words with Friends matrix above, and ensure that everyone is clear on my giving criterion? Will that approach eliminate the surprise and anger, or just create debate about the inherent unfairness of my criteria?
Everyone gives according to their own psychology — mothers with babies asking for money on the street get more from me than single people. Obviously, there are thousands of charities in the world because of the clear marketplace for different causes that appeal to different people with different emotional pulls and attachments.
So maybe the question should not be: How much did you give, and to whom, and in what measure (equal or unequal)? And instead, we should ask, "Did you give at all?" As long as the answer to that is "yes," the rest is up for you to decide.
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