So I didn't let it deter me when we moved and I didn't have a job lined up. I figured I'd make someone give me a job. And I did. After cold calling him and finagling an interview, the managing editor of the local newspaper called me into his office and offered me a job. I didn't mention pay. Neither did he.
I got my first check three weeks later — I was making $10 an hour. And I had a master's degree. Looking at that paycheck and the poster that listed the company's insurance rates and costs, I thought to myself: "If I had to pay for insurance for myself, I'd have to live in my car."
And just like I failed to mention pay when I got myself hired, I didn't mention it through my entire stint there. I collected my check, I contemplated getting a second job. But I never ever considered asking for more money. I was scared, I guess. Maybe he'd question the decision to hire me. Did I really need the money? My husband's job paid the bills. And plus, it's my fault for not asking.
When SheKnows and BlogHer got the opportunity to moderate a town hall with President Barack Obama geared toward working women, I made sure to tune in — and not just because my company was part of it. And hearing women ask the same questions I had, women who said it was time to demand our voices be heard, time to demand equal pay, I had a virtual "slow clap" moment.
Since that job, I've held others. I've (tentatively) asked for more money during job offers, thinking as I did it, "A man would ask, so why shouldn't I?"
During the town hall, 50 SheKnows Media influencers and community members asked that same question. And the fact is, we can no longer afford to be afraid to ask questions and demand answers about our paychecks. And neither can our families.
Watch those women discuss their own experiences and offer advice to other women in the video below.
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