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5 Reasons you aren't happy and what to do about it

Kori Ellis is an editor and writer based in San Antonio, TX, where she lives with her husband and four children. At SheKnows, she writes about parenting, fashion, beauty and other lifestyle topics. Additionally, Kori has been published i...

Take charge of your happiness

Many times when we are unhappy, it's difficult to pinpoint the reason. Take a look at your life and consider these possible reasons that you aren't happy, and then do something about it.

Unhappy woman

You have low self-esteem

Your low self-esteem can be robbing you of true happiness. Take steps to improve your self-esteem and confidence. When you don't love and value yourself, you can't truly enjoy life and be happy. Read these tips to boost your self-confidence and get on the road to happiness.

You are harboring resentment

When someone has been wronged by a friend, relative or partner, he/she tends to harbor resentment and anger. These negative feelings can cause depression, stress and anxiety. A person can become consumed by revenge and anger, never allowing themselves to be happy. The only way to get out of this situation is to let go of the resentment, forgive the person and move forward. Keep in mind that forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to let the person back into your life. However, you do need forgive him/her in your heart and mind.

You are a perfectionist

Being a perfectionist can be a good thing. It can make you strive to achieve higher goals and set higher expectations for yourself and others in your life. However, if you set unrealistic expectations, you'll end up feeling inadequate, blaming yourself and others, making unfair judgments and being miserable. Learn that no one is flawless. Strive for lofty goals in your life, but set realistic expectations of yourself and others.

You are in toxic relationship

If you are stuck in a toxic relationship, it's time to break free and learn how to be happy on your own. No one should ever be disrespected or abused in a relationship. Listen to those who care about you, go with your gut instinct, and make the changes in your life that are necessary to break up and move on. Spend some time alone and learn how to love yourself again. Loving yourself is the key to being happy.

You are a workaholic

It's good to be ambitious, but becoming a workaholic can make you miserable. No matter how much or how hard you work, you need to take time out for yourself. Schedule "me time" on your calendar. Pamper yourself with a bubble bath, a massage or other fun activities that you enjoy. Life is too short to be working all the time. By incorporating a little more fun into your life, you'll certainly become happier.

If you are constantly unhappy and think you may be clinically depressed, don't be afraid to seek help. Reach out to friends, relatives and professionals to get assistance.

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