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Is solo shopping best for back to school?

Solo shopping is a treat for most moms, but do your kids weigh in on their back-to-school wardrobe or not?

Moms facing off this week

Our mom bloggers this week are Janell Poulette of Saving You Dinero and Vera Sweeney from The Lady and the Blog. Both moms are SheKnows Experts Among Us, and they have plenty to say about this topic!

Question: Is it OK to do all of your teen's back-to-school shopping?

Vera SweeneyVera Sweeney

The Lady and the Blog


I still do all of my husband's shopping. Why wouldn't I expect to do my teen son's back-to-school legwork?! Please! There isn't a doubt in my mind that I will own this task until I can no longer make it to the mall or manage an online order through the net. And let me be honest... I'd have to be dead to not be able to do the latter!

Believe me, I'm not complaining. I absolutely love to shop. It's my dirty little addiction that is thankfully legal in all 50 states. So, yes. It's perfectly OK that I will shop for my teen's back-to-school needs. But I'm not greedy. He can come with me if he wants, but there's really no need. I know how to keep to someone's personal style. I would never try to make him become someone he is not. If he grows up to be grunge/surfer/preppy/punk rock/metro, then I will support that.

I have a feeling that my son Liam will grow up to be like my husband. They already seem to dress alike (which I absolutely adore). So I think I'm going to see a lot of Vineyard Vines in my future.

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Janelle PoulletteJanell Poulette

Saving You Dinero


Being a teenage boy is difficult. I don't think that most teenage boys want their mother to buy all of their clothes. Besides, I think this is a great opportunity for your teenager to learn the value of a dollar. Many teenagers do not realize how expensive back-to-school shopping can be. If you give them a set amount of money to spend on clothes, they will learn how to manage their money. They will see quickly how it helps to shop sales and clearance racks so that they are able to afford more clothing.

A parent's responsibility is to raise responsible adults. Back-to-school shopping is a great way to teach your future adults financial responsibility. If you buy your kids' clothes all the time, when will they learn to be responsible and how to work within a budget? I don't know many teenage boys who love the clothes their mom buys them, anyway.

I do think that a parent can buy stuff like socks and underwear, or even gym shorts and casual T-shirts. Most teenagers want to have the name-brand jeans and shirts that they wear every day. Let them decide how much money they want to spend on these items. Even if you think you are the coolest parent, your teenage son will never like everything you buy him. Save yourself the trouble and let him do the shopping. You may save money!


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Comments on "Is it OK to do all of your teen son's back-to-school shopping?"

Tara August 16, 2013 | 8:18 PM

My 14 year old son wants NOTHING to do with shopping for clothes LOL He knows that I know he likes basketball shorts & shirts so as long as I buy those, he is totally fine with it :)

Leslee Haralson August 16, 2013 | 7:11 PM

I have a 17 yr son and 16 yr daughter and there is no way I can buy anything wardrobe related for them. Even socks and underwear they are specific about what they want. Even when I think I've found the perfect item I end up having to take it back. It's best, for me, to let them know the budget and spend it on what they choose--then we're all happy.

amber whitehead August 16, 2013 | 10:52 AM

That's funny I have a daughter and son both teenagers and now that they can drive I give them the $ for school shopping and remind them it has to be for school and let them do it. Of course if they wanted me to do it for them I would but they'd much rather just do it themselves so they can get exactly what they want.

Stefanie August 16, 2013 | 10:32 AM

Great article and great points. I don't have a teenager yet, but I'm sure the issue will come up in a few years! lol

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