All The Single Ladies
Another year gone by, another year being single? More dating resolutions? Regardless of what's in store for you and your future relationships -- serious and casual -- here are some love resolutions for the New Year. Before you get down in the dumps or dream without taking any action, keep the following dating advice in mind to find a man who's worthy of your friendship or more.
Let love find you
"Don't look for love -- let love find you by immersing yourself in activities that you love," says Patti Feinstein, America's dating coach. "This makes you happy and approachable, you'll meet new people, you'll be out of the house and time will fly." If you're out there doing your thing, odds are you'll find someone to love who will have plenty of things in common with you. "There's nothing worse than going to singles events only to find other desperate singles who aren't showing their appreciation for life, not to mention look like they're looking," Feinstein adds.
Resolve to make friends
Whether you're single or not, making friends is important. For daters, sometimes building onto your social circle means expanding ways to meet new people "Add to your social circle. Whether it's expanding on how you meet single like-minded people, getting involved in a cause or simply opening yourself up to new experiences, it's time to mix it up," says Jill Vander, executive director of matchmaking at eLove. Consider joining a dating service and be clear on you're looking for clear, whether that's a new real relationship or just friendships.
Play the field
Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman, licensed psychologist and author of Dating From the Inside Out: How to Use the Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart, suggests this mantra: "I resolve to be open to dating more than one person for at least the first three months of dating someone." This will help you to take things slowly, use your head intelligently, get to know all your dates better and see the forest from the trees before you emotionally over commit or overreact to a specific person or situation.
Leave the drama on TV
"Rid yourself of the dramas in life that you can control," Vander suggests. Don't make a big fuss over everything, no matter how emotional you get about a new relationship. "Don't expect too much too soon from someone you're dating. Give new relationships proper time to develop," says the dating expert. "Enjoy each phase as it comes and don't rush it. Approach each date as a chance to have fun and evaluate the true person."
Resolve to be positive
Here's the number one dating resolution of all: No matter what you do, no matter what your situation, always look at the bright side. Feel good about yourself and your situation, and know that better times are waiting to happen. Say to yourself, "I resolve to have a positive attitude about myself, the opposite sex and dating this year," advises Dr. Sherman. She says to remind yourself, "I will find three things to enjoy about every date -- even if it is just the location, the weather and the food. I will be a positive presence on my dates. I will also remind myself why I am a great catch, instead of engaging in negative self-talk."