A good friend is unafraid to challenge her friend's actions, especially when they seem risky. There's a fine line between challenging her ideas and telling her what to do, however. Be careful that you stay on the side of provocative debate without crossing into mom territory. Otherwise, she may not want to share with you in the future.
Good besties remember and notice the little things. She remembers the day your in-laws are finally due to leave after an 18-day visit and then comes over with a celebratory mani/pedi gift certificate. She notices when you're using a new eyeliner and gives a giant compliment. Recognizing the little stuff goes the distance with good friends because friends are often the only ones who do notice. Try jotting down special days your gal pal mentions (job reviews, important doctor appointments, etc.) on your calendar so you don't forget to ask about them.
One of the quickest way to kill a great friendship is to smother it. Healthy friendships need breathing room, so manage friendship expectations reasonably. Remember, you are not dating -- so she doesn't need to check in every day or call to tell you if she is meeting up with another friend.
Everyone screws up. Even besties with the best intentions. Think of what life would be like without her in comparison to her crime, and you'll probably want to overlook your friend's human mistakes and move on.
This is the hallmark of a true best friends: Knowing when to offer advice, and when to just shut up. It's why women band together. (Have you ever noticed that when you vent to your man, he tries to fix the situation? Just listen, instead!). Assume that your friend just wants a safe place to vent, not judgment or a plan of action. Wait to offer your opinion until she asks for it; if she does, frame your advice in a very nurturing and supportive way -- for example, "I can see why this is a hard place to be in. I think if it were me, I might do this, but whatever you choose, I'll be here for you."
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