It's so easy to get caught up in the busy-ness and demands on the holiday season. Just as you might need five minutes of downtime (with none in sight, I'm sure), so might your kids need five
minutes with you just to talk about all that is happening.
Tradition in a child's eyes
You might be surprised at what means the most to your kids at the holidays. Perhaps you think it's just the gifts on Christmas day, but it may well be much more than that. It might be a particular
cookie or an activity that you didn't think much of - but your child thinks of as tradition. It could be a special relative or a food item. You just never know.
Woody, for example, can't get enough of eggnog; not having eggnog in the house during December really upsets him. Alfs is really into outside lights - it's just not the holiday season yet unless we
have one of or more of the apple trees in the front yard fully lit. These are things that I could take or leave, but as they are obviously important to the kids, I make them happen.
Just as we set expectations for the season, so do our kids. If emotions sometimes feel exaggerated for us in these busy days, they are more so for the kids. Highs and lows seem to happen more quickly
and more frequently. Sitting down for five minutes to talk about what is or is not happening during this intense season can help ward off the more extreme of the emotions. And recognizing the source
of the exaggerated emotions also can help you manage your emotional response - so your emotions don't get to exaggerated either.
It's not too late
Finding time - or making time - to spend five quiet minutes to regroup with your kids can be hard right now, but it is so, so worth it. And it's never too late to make that connection! Even if it is
too late to get the ingredients for a specific cookie, knowing about that expectation by and importance to your child can help you under sand priorities going forward. Maybe you can make the cookies
a day late - and make a note to make sure they get made earlier next year.
Spending just a few minutes talking, regrouping, reassuring and planning is really making sure you all get a bit of what you need for now - and later.