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Are your so-called flaws getting you down? It's time to start loving yourself for who you are — right here, right now. Here are ten tips for embracing your flaws and accepting yourself completely.

Be flawsome

1

Acknowledge what's bothering you

Without understanding the root of your concerns, it's hard to come to terms with your flaws. Dig deep and see if there are issues beneath the flaws that you need to address.

2

Use your flaws to guide self-improvement

Embracing your flaws doesn't mean you can't improve yourself. In some cases, recognizing certain flaws gives you the opportunity to work on those imperfections. If your flaw is something you want to change, go for it!

3

Appreciate your individuality

Your flaws may make you different from everybody else, but that's a good thing! Don't make the mistake of trying to fit the mold. Just look at Jennifer Grey, who altered her distinctive nose and went from Dirty Dancing fame to being unrecognizable.

4

Don't let your flaws
hold you back

Have you seen the new TLC reality show Abby & Brittany? The show follows the "everyday, normal lives" of conjoined twins whose parents raised them to believe they can do anything anyone else can — and they do! Imagine if they wallowed in their differences instead of embracing them and getting on with life.

5

Put things in perspective

Instead of focusing on everything that's bothering you, grab a notepad and jot down three things you are grateful for. Wouldn't you rather have your health and your beautiful family than be a stunning beauty without those precious gifts?

6

Make your flaws famous

Lady Gaga recently responded to criticism of her weight gain by launching a "Body Revolution," posting pics of herself in a bra and underwear and encouraging fans to do the same. "May we make our flaws famous, and thus redefine the heinous," Gaga wrote on her blog.

7

Google it

If your flaw is something physical, Google it. That's right. Type "fat thighs" or "big nose" in the search box and search images. Warning: You'll see some extreme images (some digitally altered), but we guarantee it will put things in perspective.

8

Flip your flaw

If you can find the strength in your flaw, you're a lot more likely to own it. For example, if you've always considered yourself quiet and shy, that probably means you're an amazing listener and observer.

9

Don't compare yourself

Let this be the year of you. Stop comparing yourself to others and love yourself for who you are — the good, the bad and the ugly. Everyone has their own idiosyncrasies. That's what makes life interesting!

10

Be flawsome

Yes, flawsome is an actual term. It was recently coined by trendwatching.com to describe brands that show humanity by being open about their flaws. In their words, "Human nature dictates that people have a hard time genuinely connecting with, being close to, or really trusting other humans who (pretend to) have no weaknesses, flaws, or mistakes." Who wants that? Embrace your flaws — and be flawsome!

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