Eating disorders and dating: Do you tell or keep it secret?

Jun 30, 2011 2:15 PM by Colleen Crane, MSW, LCSW

Posted in Health & Wellness / Women's Health / Conditions

Dating When
You Have An ED

Dealing with an eating disorder can be anxiety-inducing enough, but what do you do when you are in a relationship? Revealing your eating disorder on the first date is a big no-no, but sharing it with Mr. Right is the right thing to do. Here’s how sharing with your partner can help put you on the path to healing.

Couple having serious discussion

Eating disorder or not, we all have problems

Telling someone that you have an eating disorder does not mean the relationship is doomed. Often, discussing your problems with the person you love allows your partner to also open up about his own personal issues. Sharing intimate details allows people to get closer.

Telling someone means that you recognize you have a problem

When you tell loved ones that you are suffering from an eating disorder it can help them understand a deeper part of you. If your partner is interested in a serious and committed relationship, he probably wants to know the good, bad and in-between. The first step to solving a problem is recognizing and addressing it as a problem!

Your partner can help you in your healing

Sharing with your partner that you have an eating disorder means that your partner can help you avoid triggers and support you in your healing process. If your partner really is Mr. Right, then being there to support you is probably on the top of his list. There are many mental health professionals who specialize in eating disorders who can help explain to your partner what you may be going through if you run into a roadblock.

If he dumps you, he's not what you want anyway

If you share with your partner that you have an eating disorder and he is not receptive to you, then he probably isn't the right guy for you. Eating disorders never go away, and are a lifelong struggle. If you want to get better, you need a partner that is going to support you, no matter what!

Eating disorders are a serious problem

Whether you have been struggling with an eating disorder for years or just a couple of months, it is important to get help from a professional. Eating disorders not only affect your physical health, but also your mental health. Reaching out to a professional can help you manage your anxieties when it comes to eating. A professional can also provide a safe space for you and your partner to discuss issues and address them with someone who knows what you are going through. Don't try to do it on your own!

More on eating disorders

Eating disorders: Truth, reality and lies
Fat Haters Club: Eating disorders and teens
The American body image and weight loss struggle
What is binge eating disorder?
Orthorexia: The dangers of eating too healthy

Tags: dating advice eating disorders mental health

The opinions expressed in this article are of the author and the author alone. They do not reflect the opinions of SheKnows, LLC or any of its affiliates and they have not been reviewed by an expert in a related field or any member of the SheKnows editorial staff for accuracy, balance or objectivity. Content and other information presented on the Site are not a substitute for professional advice, counseling, diagnosis, or treatment. Never delay or disregard seeking professional medical or mental health advice from your physician or other qualified health provider because of something you have read on SheKnows. SheKnows does not endorse any specific product, service or treatment.