Sex Questions Answered
When it comes to sexual problems and women's health issues, distinguishing what's normal and what's not can be difficult. We consulted experts across the country to discuss common problems and find out when you need to call a doctor.
Is not being able to orgasm during sex normal?
Believe it or not, you aren't alone. According to Dr. Diana Ramos, professor, OB/GYN and collaborator on 50 Years of the Pill, "Only about a third of women experience orgasm regularly during intercourse. A third can reach orgasm with intercourse but need extra stimulation. A third never achieve orgasm during intercourse but can by manual and oral stimulation."
If you haven't achieved orgasm yet, however, don't give up hope. Dr. Prudence Hall of the Hall Health and Longevity Center says:
Practice doesn't always make perfect, though. A hormonal imbalance may be the cause of the problem. If you have tried Kegel exercises, experimented with a vibrator, worked with your partner and are still unable to achieve orgasm, talk to your doctor.
"The birth control pill diminishes our hormones so dramatically that many of my patients complain of a low sex drive and poor orgasms while on the pill," explains Hall. "I advise them to come off it ASAP and to use condoms (crown condoms are best), a diaphragm, IUD or the new Ovu-Watch, which helps women predict and avoid their fertile times. When my peri-menopausal and menopausal patients begin to lose their orgasms due to declining hormones, I replace their hormones to youthful levels with bioidentical hormones. Testosterone, estrogen, DHEA and thyroid really help keep us vital and sexy, as well as prevent the diseases of aging that occur when our hormones decline."
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