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7 Secrets to happiness

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True joy - not quickie mood boosts but that totally stoked mental state - boils down to these surprising essentials. Behold, your ticket to bliss.

7. You Must Stop Mentally Browsing

We know you've been here: You're sitting at a restaurant, menu in hand, when the deliberation begins: Chicken or fish? Chicken or fish? After angsting for 20 minutes, you go with the fish...and then sit there until the meal comes, wondering if you should've gone with the chicken. Okay, maybe this is a very mild version, but in life, we do this on a larger scale all the time. "We convince ourselves that there must be something better out there, but 'mental browsing' is a recipe for dissatisfaction," says Schwartz. "You're wasting time and energy on doubting a good move just because there was another option, or 10, that you didn't choose. You'll never be happy if you live like this."

The solution? Whenever a decision is in doubt — like whether your current guy is The One — pick two characteristics that are important to you (in this case, maybe it's a sense of humor and a close-knit family). Once your criteria are established, ask yourself if they're being met. If so, forget other options and move on. You'll know if another option is better for you because it'll nag at you. So relax, you've made the right choice...or at least one that's going to make you happy.

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Reprinted with Permission of Hearst Communications, Inc. Originally Published: 7 Secrets to Happiness

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