How many times have you set a new goal, only to fail? You plan to get started on Monday morning, and over the weekend you hit the farmers market to stock up on everything you need.
Now, let's say the first scenario happened. Integrity to ourselves is the best thing we can do for ourselves. Every time we "fail," we take another hit to our self esteem, because we promised ourselves something and then didn't do it. You get down on yourself throughout the day and think, "Why can't I get it together?" The bad news is you won't get it together, at least not as long as that negative talk continues. You don't believe in yourself and your chances of success are much lower.
Now, let's say the second scenario happened. You're pumped. You had a great workout, so you're eating healthy all day. You're feeling amazing, and are now looking forward to healthier lifestyle. In this scenario, you are positive and focused on what you did accomplish. You did what you promised yourself you would do, so your integrity is intact. You're focused on improvement and how good you feel — and you want to keep that feeling!
Mindset is everything. When we're focused on how we're failures, how we can't, how we'll never get it together, then we never will.
If you've had a day like Scenario #1 — and who hasn't? — your best bet for recovering from it is to focus on getting to the gym later. Reassess your early-morning gym plans. Maybe you're not a morning person, and the lunch hour or after work are better times for you to schedule your workouts. Maybe you need a little more incentive, like hiring a personal trainer or motivation coach until you get into the routine of things.
Sometimes you just need the time to create a habit, and you need to put things in place to help you along the way. Instead of focusing on how you're a screw-up and won't ever lose the weight, focus on what will work for you. Set yourself up for success by selecting a schedule that works for your lifestyle and personality, hire a coach if you need incentive to show up and focus on creating positive self talk.
It's human nature to focus on our flaws or perceived flaws. We can be very hard on ourselves and that causes a spiral of negativity, making new-found goals almost impossible in the face of our own criticisms. I coach my clients to do three main things to help them overcome a negative mindset, improve their belief in themselves so they can overcome the battle of the bulge and make exercise and healthy eating a part of their everyday lives — and love it!
You can get the same results. Follow these tricks, and you'll be moving towards your goals before you know it!
Focusing on these three things will break your negative mindset, help create new habits and give you a positive way to think about other areas of your life — further impacting you in a positive way!
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