SECTIONS
What would you like to know?
Share this Story

Plus-size blogger perfectly shuts down comments about bikini photo

Meagan Morris is an entertainment and lifestyle journalist living in New York City. In addition to SheKnows, Morris contributes to many publications including The New York Times, Yahoo! News, PopEater, NBC New York and Spinner. Follow he...

Fashion blogger silences condescending compliments about 'brave' bikini pose

Jessica Kane is tired. The beauty and fashion blogger is tired of the faux compliments that commend her for having the courage to wear a bikini just because she doesn't fit a preconceived standard of what's the "right" size to wear one.

"THIS WAS NOT BRAVE," Kane wrote on a Facebook post about posing in a bikini on the beach. It's simple: She loves herself the way she is.

"I've been told how brave I am for not having a coverup, but going with out (sic) a wrap would only take bravery if I cared what others thought of me, but I don't," she continued. "I spend my time worrying about things I CAN control and this day, I was only thinking about how fab I felt and how much sun I was catching."

THIS WAS NOT BRAVE. I've been told how brave I am for not having a coverup, but going with out a wrap would only take...

Posted by Jessica Kane on Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Kane then goes on to school the naysayers on what the true meaning of "brave" really is.

More: "Fat girl" challenges runners' stereotypes

"Things that DO take bravery? A family battling tragic illness, a mother trying to beat addiction, a person trying to break free of domestic violence, reaching out for help when you have already planned your suicide and feel like you can't breath (sic) one more day. THAT is brave. Not wearing a swimsuit at the beach. LIVE life and only worry about what really matters."

Her message is an important one, especially since summer — and the much-feared bikini season — is rapidly approaching. Too many women are going to skip a fun event because of a fear they don't have the "right" type of bikini body, as decreed by others. It's time we stop. If not for our own sake, for the sake of young girls learning about what it means to be beautiful and comfortable in their own skin.

More: Singer turns "All About That Bass" into a song for all women

"What if we let the critics in our head win?? What if you turn down that pool party invite?? Your happiness will suffer in exchange to make someone else more comfortable with THEIR own issues, our children's self esteem will suffer and they will think this is how they should be as well (why should they love themselves unconditionally when they don't see you doing that?)," Kane continued in a separate blog post.

"... Eff the critics babygirl, and eff anyone else's version of beauty if it forces you to deny embracing moments like these... live your life NOW."

Comments
Follow Us

SheKnows Media ‐ Beauty and Style

Hot
New in Health & Wellness
Close

And you'll see personalized content just for you whenever you click the My Feed .

SheKnows is making some changes!