Is He As Nice As He Seems?
If he says "I'm a nice guy," odds are he's not. Real nice guys don't have to make the declaration. Read on to find out how other women define jerk.
What's with the shirt?Bonnie, a 22-year-old from New York, NY, estimates the jerk factor by examining aesthetics. "Oh easy one — jerks wear white button-down shirts with blue pinstripes, (most likely) with the first three buttons undone and chest hair poking out," the student and waitress points out. "I avoid these men at all cost."
Don't Call Me "Hun"When we asked print investment supervisor Ilyse how she spots jerks, she answers: Any guy that calls you â€˜babe,' â€˜honey,' or any other term of endearment upon first meeting. "It's creepy, weird and totally crosses a line that is only acceptable post-coital, if ever," she points out.
Man to serversIlyse also believes you can judge a man by the way he treats the wait staff. "If he's rude to them, he's probably offensive in other facts of life," she reveals. "Nothing's worse than a first date with a guy who yells at your waitress because she didn't give him enough vodka in his martini."
Beefcakes and egosRoller derby princess Lori strongly advises all respecting females to never date bouncers or men who are addicted to fostering and maintaining huge muscles. "They're probably jerks because they think they're God's gifts," she explains. "They love their bodies and themselves way too much. Plus, they look stupid, too."
If he's iffyâ€¦For Jennifer, a freelance writer and self-proclaimed cynic, the number one sign of jerk is the inability to commit. "Not necessarily in a relationship, but even with just hanging out," she explains. "He'd say something like, â€˜uh yeah, not sure what I'm doing Saturday yet, but I'll call you,' and then he never does."
The cheap factorAfter digging into her bad-date archives, Diane, a marketing superwoman, spots the jerk extraordinaire. "He asked me to pay all the time because I made more money than he did," she recalls. "He also refused to spend any money on heating his apartment!" Ladies, find a man who's established, not to mention, giving. If he's skimping on necessities like utilities and asking you to shell out money for every date, he's jerk status.