Perfection is overrated. This coming from a lifelong perfectionist, who used to wake every day holding myself to unrealistic standards and driving myself mad along the way. There was no time for enjoyment. And happiness? What’s that? I was on to the next thing. I rolled along, ticking off boxes like a grocery list: Professional dancer? Check. Write a hit song? Check. Have a six-pack? Check. Have a picture-perfect marriage? Check. Become a successful chef? Check. All the boxes were ticked, and I’d be damned if the world saw me as anything but perfect. Sound familiar?
If you’ve ever played the perfectionist game, you realize quickly that you can keep those giant plates spinning for only a while before they come crashing down in an epic life mess.
Then the negative boxes start getting ticked. Self-doubt, overeating, body-shaming and so on. When did we forget that what makes us human is much more interesting than the bullshit story we pretend to the world?
I’ve been on a mission to embrace and own my mistakes for everyone to see. When creating my videos for SheKnows, we intentionally left in the outtakes. I screw up from time to time. And you know what? It’s so much more watchable, relatable and funny because it’s real. I didn’t set out to create another sterile cooking series (yawn). I really just want to make you laugh and hopefully give you some cool takeaways for your cooking journey in the process.
In my cookbook Eat Your Heart Out, I put an immense stress on the importance of self-care. On Valentine's Day this year, don’t worry about giving or receiving silly jewelry, dozens of roses that will be dead in a week or snagging that hard-to-get reservation. Start with self-love. It’s much easier to top someone else's cup off when your cup of happiness runs over. If you really want to give happiness, you should make my delicious gluten-free sweet cheese blintz with blackberry jam. Valentine's falls on a weekend this year, so go ahead and enjoy these while lounging lazily in bed — partner not required.
Just try to live and love by the words of Salvador Dali: "Have no fear of perfection; you’ll never reach it."
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