To demystify some of these matters, we gathered the advice of two party planning experts: Desiree Spinner, founder and event planner at Desiree Spinner Events, and Melissa Phillips, founder of the premier event planning firm, Simply Perfect by Melissa.
A: "Unlike wedding showers, there is not really a rule as to who should host or who should not," says Phillips. "Obviously, the bride or her significant other should not host their own shower, but parents, siblings, or friends are all great hosts."
A: "We tell our clients six to seven months is the best time because the mother is beginning to 'nest' or get ready for the baby," says Spinner. "Also, most moms tend to feel the most comfortable with their growing bellies around this stage. During the eighth and ninth month of pregnancy, it can be very uncomfortable to sit in one spot opening gifts for an hour or two."
A: "Sure! If the mom is having a second or third baby of a different gender or has a large age gap between children, then we throw what is called a 'sprinkle.' A sprinkle is a light shower or intimate party for the mom-to-be with a few friends and family to help stock up on some opposite gender clothing or new products that the mom-to-be may not know about," explains Spinner.
A: "Having the father-to-be present is a nice touch as he too will be part of the baby's life, but it is not essential. It would definitely be nice if he would come at the end to help pack up all of the great gifts into a car to relieve that duty from any of the ladies," explains Phillips.
A: "The attire should be the same for a baby shower as for a bridal shower or engagement party. Women should wear a dress skirt or dress pants with an appropriate blouse. Men should wear a polo or button-down shirt with khaki pants or shorts," says Spinner.
A: "The amount you spend is completely dependent on your own budget. Big or small, expensive or inexpensive, it is the thought that counts. Some of the most thoughtful and meaningful gifts may be inexpensive monetarily, but have a huge sentimental value," says Phillips.
A: "Normally I would say that purchasing something on the registry is important because it's something the mom-to-be has requested. If you want to personalize it a little, you can purchase something smaller on the registry as well as another item that you used or liked for your own children as an alternative," says Spinner. "Attach a note to the gift explaining why it was included for a personal touch. For example, at a recent shower I purchased bath towels and a robe from the registry, but also purchased bath products and a book. I attached a note that said, 'My favorite time with my son when he was a baby was bath time when we would settle in with a book. The smell of the soap will always remind me of a newborn baby and the excitement of becoming a mom for the first time.'"
A: "Baby supplies tend to get a bit beaten with each child, so fresh staple items are always nice: onesies, burp clothes, bibs, sleepers, and clothes in general. She may even need some new, larger equipment like a stroller that seats two children versus one. If she does not register, this is when asking her what she may be able to use would be completely appropriate," explains Phillips.
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