Grown Marriage Vs. Open Marriage
Jada Pinkett Smith is setting the record straight about her marriage, and the difference between being open and being trustful.
Tired of years of rumors about having an open marriage — which only heated up after a recent interview in which she said her husband Will Smith can do whatever he wants — Jada Pinkett Smith is clarifying exactly what marriage means to her.
Earlier in the month Jada was asked by the Huffington Post if the rumors she and Will have an open relationship are true; she replied, "I've always told Will, 'You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be OK,'" she said. "Because at the end of the day Will is his own man. I'm here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be, and that's not for me to do for him. Or vice versa."
You can see how that would set tongues wagging. Now Jada is setting the record straight once and for all.
In a long Facebook post, the singer/actress wrote, "The statement I made in regard to, 'Will can do whatever he wants,' has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist."
"Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should 'behave'? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of 'you better act right or else' keep one honest and true? Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement? Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE?"
"Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom?" she pondered. "Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE… for us???"
"Here is how I will change my statement… Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship… this means we have a GROWN one."
Will and Jada Pinkett Smith wed in 1997. They have two kids, Willow and Jaden, plus Will's son Trey from his previous marriage.
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