Life With Ryan And Tips For Emily Maynard

Since Trista and Ryan are the prototype for all Bachelor and Bachelorette couples, we thought who better to chat about the nitty-gritty of romance with? From one Bachelorette to another, Trista Sutter has some heartfelt advice for Emily Maynard.
Ryan and Trista Sutter with they kids and still in love post The Bachelorette

Trista & Ryan

What can Emily learn about love from the Sutters? Trista offers her heartfelt advice to Maynard.

Mom to mom, Bachelorette to Bachelorette

"Take advantage of downtime. As a single mom, I assume any time away from shooting, Emily will want to be with her sweet daughter," said Trista who used her downtime to journal. Though some fans might speculate on the difficulties of finding love because she is a single mom, Trista knows how bringing children into the picture can show a man's strong suit. She and Ryan have had two children since getting married after The Bachelorette: Blakesley and Maxwell.

"If you don't feel it, you can't force it."

What do we think? It will definitely bring a whole new level of trust onto the show, something much deeper than defying heights and other fears together.

"[Since becoming a father,] I have seen his inner creativity shine," she said, and even though she knew he was calm and collected when they met on The Bachelorette, "I found out firsthand [after having kids] how incredibly calm he is during an emergency." Something she feels speaks volumes about the ability to be comfortable around each other.

She also wants to remind Emily to enjoy the ride, "Stay in the moment as much as possible and take time to smell ALL the roses. If you don't feel it, you can't force it."

Overcoming the gossip rags

One of the biggest strikes against going on the show is the big step you take out of the limo and into the public eye. In a past interview with Chris Harrison, Emily admitted that this was a big struggle for her and her daughter Ricky as the public became obsessed with her relationship with Brad.

"Don't read comments on blogs!" Trista warns Emily after learning the hard way. "I can't imagine that anyone would have anything negative to say about Emily, but it's best to stay away." One situation that's hard not to be criticized for? The fantasy suite. But Trista gives SheKnows some insight to the matter.

"For me, the fantasy suite was much more important for saying goodbye to the cameras and really getting a feel for what the relationship would be like away from the show." To Emily she says, "Don't worry about the chatty Cathy's who have their own opinions about what happens behind closed doors."

As for Trista and Ryan…

Bachelorette Trista and husband Ryan Sutter
It does work. "With time, I have fallen into a much deeper love," said Trista.

Judging by Ryan's gift to Trista on their seventh anniversary, they've still got the spark! "Ryan got me a pound of pennies and for each of those pennies he wrote something he loves about me," she told SheKnows.

Cue the "Awwww!" How exactly have they gotten to this point? Amongst trust and respect with some good chemistry mixed in, they stay focused on the positive.

"It may be infinitesimal, but if you hold on to the memory of why you fell in love or the hint of a smile that they gave you from across the room, you should be able to conquer all the negativity." Trista also told us that she still has the stuffed Shamu that Ryan gave her on their first one-on-one date.

The couple also makes sure to laugh a lot as frequent users of the that's-what-she-said joke. "Juvenile, yes… but also hysterical," she comments.

And The Bachelorette designs...

In life after The Bachelorette, while being a wife and mother, Trista also designs regularly for a children's clothing line with Vintage Couture. Here's a little look book of the darling momma's darling designs:

Trista Sutter's designs
Trista Sutter's designs

Blushing Paisley

Boy's polo (left), Boy's tie (middle), and a baby romper (right).
Trista Sutter's designs
Photos courtesy of Trista Sutter and Vintage Couture

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Comments on "From Trista Sutter to Bachelorette Emily: "Smell ALL the roses""

Patricia June 02, 2012 | 12:16 AM

Whoa. Some really nasty comments here. Why not just be pleased that Trista and Ryan have a happy marriage and family.

steph March 14, 2012 | 9:43 AM

GO AWAY MILLION DOLLAR LADY. I USED TO BE A FAN OF THE BACHELOR SHOW - I REMEMBER SEEING TRISTA ON THE FIRST ONE AND SHE WAS MORE UPSET CLEARLY THAT SHE WOULDN"T BE GETTING TONS OF GIFTS AND MONEY. SHE EVEN SAID "IF IT WERE A MILLION DOLLARS, IT"D BE DIFFERENT". SAD. TOUCHEE HUH TRISTA? THAT"S THE COINCIDENTAL AMOUNT YOU MOOCHED OFF THE SHOW. AND NOW YOU HAVE THE NERVE TO PUT PEOPLE DOWN AND CRITIQUE THEM AS IF YOU"RE ANYBODY - OR EVEN A WORKIN PERSON NOT TRYING TO PASS OFF NORMAL EVERY DAY THINGS THAT EVERYBODY DOES AS SPECIAL.

melissa March 14, 2012 | 7:30 AM

Trista cracks me up. She's very quick to judge people on the shows if they're not rich or live somewhere expensive but when she's put in her own place...she tries to say that normal everyday things are what makes up her "job". If someone put down someone I knew for their job when they themselves had no job - I would tell them to get a job even as a janitor and then they can talk. But I heard Trista said that she's a "accountant, manager, chef, etc" oh please - I guess we are all accountants because we know how to balance a checkbook or we're all chauffeurs or seamstresses or chefs. I'm a mother and I wouldnt dare put down anyone else and then try to use Trista's line which seems to be "I have a job, I'm an accountant, a parent, a chef". GET A JOB TRISTA AND STOP MOOCHING OFF TV SHOWS, you're a disgrace to women that actually do work for a living and do more then be the first -ever and always reality show reject on every single show.

Beth March 13, 2012 | 3:26 PM

Wow Christie and Steph, jealous much? Both Trista and her husband are making a living and supporting their family just like everyone else. They are to be commended for their dedication to each other and making it work over the years. In terms of the producer you "say" you know, he sounds like a pretty big ---- --- himself. Think twice before you spread hate about people. It's bad karma.

Liz March 13, 2012 | 2:20 PM

Sorry peoples but I like Trista. She and Ryan have made their marriage work which is darn hard nowadays. I don't know where you are getting your ideas from. Maybe too much reading gossip mags?

steph March 13, 2012 | 9:19 AM

I agree with the other ladies. I'm a firm believer of saying "judge not lest thee be judged" and Trista embodies cirticizing others, putting them down and having an overinflated opnion of herself - she lacks humility. She's definitely not the type I would invite to a neighborhood get together because people would be wondering the whole time who she's mentally criticizing for not having a fancy place or nicer things that she was able to buy (or have given to her) courtesy of tv shows.

christie March 13, 2012 | 8:38 AM

Haha! Smell ALL The Roses. How clever and incredibly hilarious. Trista please get a job so people may hold you in a regard other then being the selfish greedy witch. I have a friend that's a producer on Dancing with the Stars and they said that they had never seen anyone more self-absorbed.

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