For some reason, people have decided to brand Jennifer Aniston as a person for whom you should feel sorry. In fact, in recent years, people have made Aniston’s life into a spectator sport. And she is so not feeling it, as she said in a new interview with Marie Claire. For starters, when fresh rumors blazed about an alleged pregnancy over the summer, Aniston took matters into her own hands and wrote an op-ed for The Huffington Post. Why? Because she’d had enough.
“My marital status has been shamed; my divorce status was shamed; my lack of a mate had been shamed; my nipples have been shamed," Aniston told Marie Claire. "It's like, 'Why are we only looking at women through this particular lens of picking us apart? Why are we listening to it?' I just thought: I have worked too hard in this life and this career to be whittled down to a sad, childless human."
She went through a very public divorce from Brad Pitt. She has chosen to not have children thus far. So what? She doesn’t appreciate being painted as a sob story. And Aniston’s message here is powerful: Women can weather divorce and not have children and still be whole and happy — not in spite of their choices, but because of them. After all, she wound up with Justin Theroux, whom she married last year, which wouldn’t have happened had everything in her life stayed static.
As to Theroux, Aniston said he’s right for her because of the honesty and vulnerability she can bring to the relationship. "Why is he the right person for me? All I know is that I feel completely seen, and adored, in no matter what state," she said. "There's no part of me that I don't feel comfortable showing, exposing. And it brings forth the best part of myself, because I care about him so much. And he's such a good person. It hurts me to think of anything hurting him."
In terms of what’s next, Aniston said that at this point, a role has to be really good for her to take it. "You have to be so madly in love with it and think, I will be so upset if I don't go and play this person… Especially these days, with Justin in Melbourne. It has to be worth it." At the time of the interview, he was filming the last season of The Leftovers in Australia, which wrapped in September.
"This is a time when I'm not completely sure what I'm doing," she said. "I'm at this sort of crossroads trying to figure out what inspires me deep in my core. What used to make me tick is not necessarily making me tick anymore… The most challenging thing right now is trying to find what it is that makes my heart sing."
One thing is for sure: People who pity Aniston definitely do not make her heart sing — or anyone else’s, for that matter. As she put it in The Huffington Post, “We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies.” Boom. Mic down, Aniston.
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