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Sorry, but The Bachelorette's Alex doesn't get a free pass for being military

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Being in the military shouldn't excuse Bachelorette contestant Alex's bully behavior

After Chad finally got the boot during last week's episode of The Bachelorette, everyone seemed relieved to finally be rid of the resident bully. Unfortunately, though, I'm not convinced they don't still have a bully in their midst.

You know, a wolf in sheep's clothing — or, as it were, a wolf in a military uniform.

That's right; I'm talking about Alex. To be clear, I've had no real issues with Alex up to this point. He's real cute, right? He's got a killer smile, he could be related to James Marsden and he seemed to defend JoJo's honor when Chad was being disrespectful. Most notably, he is a member of the U.S. Marine Corps. All in all, he seems like the whole package (if not a little short for my personal taste).

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But here's the thing: Just because you are in the military, it does not mean you get a free pass to be a jerk. Do I appreciate Alex's service to our country? Absolutely. However, I also think he was being a huge a-hole this week.

With Chad gone, it would stand to reason he would just be chill with the other guys left in the house. After all, he didn't seem to have any qualms with them when Chad was still around.

Of course, such was not the case — the curtains had barely closed on Chad when Alex started to complain about fellow suitor Derek. His logic was that Derek is too sensitive, insecure and jealous. For the record, these all seem like pretty routine emotions when you're dating a chick who's dating a dozen other dudes.

Later, when Derek pulled Chase, Jordan, Robby and Alex aside to tell them he felt uncomfortable with their mean-guy-clique-ish behavior, Alex (and Jordan, who also did not impress me this week) jumped down Derek's throat.

What the dill, pickle? Pump the brakes for a minute, will ya?

Thank goodness for voices of reason like sweet Wells who, upon learning about the heated convo, said it took "valor" on Derek's part to broach the subject.

Alex was having none of it, though. Not only was he throwing Derek some serious shade, but he also kept referring to him as a "little bitch" in the camera confessionals. I'm sorry, say what?

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Let me be clear — that is a misogynistic and, well, just plain ugly pejorative. I don't care if he is in the military. I wouldn't care if he was the pope. It's not an OK thing for him to say, unless he is quite literally referencing a petite female dog. In no way, shape or form should he be casting it as an aspersion against a fellow human being, particularly since the implication is so gosh-damn sexist.

A cursory glance at the Twittersphere reveals I am not alone in feeling this newfound hostility toward Alex. In fact, his fratitude, er, attitude annoyed quite a few people this week.

Including ex-Bachelorette Andi Dorfman.

At this point, the prognosis isn't good. While there's a slim possibility Alex could turn his behavior around and win viewers back over, I just don't see it happening. In my experience, guys like that don't realize they are doing anything wrong and, therefore, don't know there is a lesson to be learned.

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In my honest opinion, I think Alex is young and, yes, I think he is insecure. It's not fair to judge a man by his height, but the reality is people do. It sucks, but so do a lot of things. It seems to me like Alex has some self-consciousness stemming from his short stature.

I hate that things have taken this turn, because he started out so promising. Le sigh. Hey, at least our other military hero hasn't let us down yet — Luke, keep fighting the good fight, my man.

Do you agree Alex has taken a turn for the worse?

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Being in the military shouldn't excuse Bachelorette contestant Alex's bully behavior
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