The Bachelorette premiered last night with Joelle Fetcher's search for fairy tale love. There are a few interesting first-meeting behaviors to note in this episode, which anyone can use to their advantage on a first date. Also, I saw some moves not to make as I watched the premiere. I've rounded up some dating tips that The Bachelor franchise illustrates well in a list of dating dos and don'ts.
Don't invade someone's personal space unless he or she appears to feel comfortable with this. Most of the men reached out for Jojo's hands or gave a hug. It is always polite to ask if this is OK.
Just because a connection isn't immediate doesn't mean it won't develop. Not every great relationship starts the first meeting or minute. Give yourself time to develop a friendship and see if that leads to a deeper connection or more chemistry.
Look at the other person with good eye contact, but don't overdo the gaze. A relaxed approach is best. Jojo tends to look at the guy with whom she is talking and naturally looks away.
Even if you've chatted with someone online, you don't truly know the person. It's still a first meeting.
Always ask open-ended questions so you can keep the conversation moving forward with interesting topics. Always focus on the other person in asking questions. Don't just focus on yourself while talking.
Drinking too much might make you more relaxed, but it's a terrible idea. Your guard will be lowered, and you could say or do things to put a second date — or yourself — at risk.
Being open to new possibilities with a positive mindset will always be better than negativity. Jojo is very positive and hopeful in her search. Use her example to be open to the possibility of love.
Always respect the other person in space and communication.
Jojo is from Texas, and the two men from Texas used that to share something in common. James brought this up to her, and Luke from Texas gave Jojo a pair of cowboy boots, a small gesture that created a connection. On a date, look for things you have in common with the other person and bring these up.
Never lead with a gimmick or a trick. A good introduction and conversation should be plenty.
Deep breathes or counting might do the trick. You can use these tools without anyone noticing if you feel nervous in the moment.
Talking poorly about others is bad form. There is no room for negative talk.
James F., the boxing club manager, brought out his boxing gloves to break the ice. While you may not pull out the gloves on a first date, you can plan mini golf or something more than just a drink or coffee. The atmosphere will be more relaxed when there is an activity involved.
I think one of the best tips is to be yourself and act genuine upon meeting a new date or potential date. On this reality TV dating show, the audience never sees the contestants discuss topics such as politics or religion.
I think if you are passionate about politics — especially during election season — political conversations might get you a second date and might make for an interesting chat. So even though The Bachelor franchise does not feel that these conversations will make for intriguing TV, they might make for an intriguing date.
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