The media love to watch someone young and successful derail. It's rather morbid when you think about it, and we're all guilty of it. Whether it's jealousy or irritation (that stems from others accumulating vast wealth at a young age while the majority of us don't), it's hard to say why we celebrate the demise of a young promising star — at first. After time it just becomes sad.
What Justin Bieber needs is a break. You don't get where he is by sitting on your stoned a** all day. This 19-year-old has been working hard for a long time. He needs to get away, and not to some cushy beach surrounded by thong-wearing hookers and his loser friends. He needs to get on the horn (once police give his cell phone back to him) and dial up someone like Angelina Jolie, who can tell him of some remote region where he can chill out and maybe savor a big slice of humble pie.
He needs a month away from his band of idiots, filtering water for a Third World village to gain a little clarity and perspective.
We all know that doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity, mostly because we've all lived vivid examples of this. The Biebs has not chosen wisely when it comes to the friends he keeps. According to TMZ, Lil Za was arrested for felony drug possession at JB's home in mid-January and rapper Khalil was pulled over with Bieber on Thursday morning in Miami Beach (which resulted in JB being cuffed and stuffed for drag racing, DUI, resisting arrest and driving with an expired license). While the Biebs is on his third world tour, he can clean house in the "friend" department and choose wisely when it comes to making new friends.
Usually, relying on someone else to save your sorry a** isn't the healthiest strategy, but the truth is some people operate better when they are accountable to someone else, particularly if that someone else has their stuff together. We didn't see any of this nonsense from Bieber when he was with the fair Selena Gomez. After the Biebs takes a timeout, he could use some help with keeping his life in order. Whether that comes from Gomez or another girl who has his best interests at heart, it doesn't really matter — he needs someone who will keep him grounded and give him a reason to not act like an overindulged misfit.
While Bieber is retooling, he's got to exterminate the rats in his house. It's obvious by the way Bieber has been behaving that he's surrounded himself with yes-men/yes-women. It's time for a new management team. One of two things is happening here — no one on Bieber's team has the stones to stand up to him or folks on his team are giving him sound advice and JB isn't listening. Either way, they are ineffective. Bieber needs to surround himself with people who are willing to dish out a little tough love effectively.
God in heaven, where is this kid's mother? OK, I'm not going to pretend to know what it's like to have an off-the-charts famous kid, but I do have kids who are 19 and 22, and if they were acting out like this — even on a much smaller scale (excessive drinking, bad choices in friends, drug use) I'd step in and say, "What the hell do you think you are doing?" Parenting doesn't stop when a kid turns 18! If anything, they need you more than ever because now their problems are adult problems with adult consequences, and they need someone with some solid life experience. (And by "solid life experience," I mean experience gained and lessons learned through mistakes and poor choices — I, in no way, mean to suggest that I or any other mother is all-knowing and wise — just experienced.)
In fairness, maybe Bieber's mother, Pattie Mallette, has tried to step in to help her son and her attempts have fallen on deaf ears. She wouldn't be the first mom to be ignored when she's trying to help her kid, so here again — she's not effective in her mentoring role. Perhaps what the Biebs needs is a strong mother figure who can help him navigate a difficult time.
Watching young, hardworking talent like Lindsay Lohan, Miley Cyrus and Justin Bieber implode is heartbreaking. Perhaps Bieber's recent arrest will be the wake-up call he needs to turn his life around.
And you'll see personalized content just for you whenever you click the My Feed .
SheKnows is making some changes!