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Why is Lauren Silverman getting all the blame?

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Simon Cowell's baby mama drama

Simon Cowell betrayed his best friend, Andrew Silverman, by bedding the real estate mogul's wife. Now, she's pregnant — and getting the brunt of the blame.

Simon Cowell's baby mama drama

Simon Cowell finally broke his silence about all the drama surrounding his love triangle — and upcoming child — with "friend" Andrew Silverman and his estranged wife, Lauren Silverman.

"There are a lot of things I will eventually clear up when the time is right, but I really have to be sensitive because there's a lot of people's feelings involved here," Cowell told People at the TCAs on Thursday.

Lauren is reportedly about three months along with Cowell's child — and sources "close" to the situation are all too willing to talk about the relationship, telling media outlets that she's a "gold digger" who schemed to get pregnant to gain fame and fortune.

"Lauren is now going around telling people that she will be in charge of all his properties around the world and has demanded a country home in the Cotswolds," a source told the Daily Mail, adding that Cowell is "horrified" at her demands. "She has also threatened not to allow him access to the child unless he marries her."

Of course, there's no mention of how Cowell's actions played a part in ruining a friendship and a marriage. All of the blame is on Lauren. It's typical — but sad — that the sexual double standard still exists.

That's not to say she shouldn't own up to her role in the situation, though. We asked Dr. Deborah Hecker, psychotherapist and divorce expert, to explain how Lauren and Cowell can accept responsibility for their mistakes and start the healing process.

"It is important for someone who has betrayed another to understand the psychological significance of these acts of betrayal on the recipients," Dr. Hecker says. "The impact of this type of trauma can range from anger and damaged self-esteem to shock. Not infrequently, it produces life-altering changes."

Dr. Hecker adds, "If Lauren Silverman or a woman in her shoes sought my help to disentangle the very complex situation she is in, I would begin by educating her to the most striking theme in the drama — that of loss.

"In this particular triangle, the losses are substantial; the loss of a marriage, the loss of friendship and the loss of trust. Whenever there are attachments and human bonds that are broken, through separation, divorce, or betrayal, there will inevitably be grief. In the case of divorce, that grief can last for years. In the case of betrayal, the trauma can last a lifetime."

Let's just hope they can all get past their differences to focus on the most important thing in this situation: the baby.

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