The best type of mom you can be is YOUR type of mom.
This Mother's Day, we should reflect on the importance of mothers. A mother is a woman responsible for the welfare of a child. There are no tiers of mothers. It doesn't matter whether you gave birth, adopted, had a child through a surrogate, and so on.
This week's TIME featured a cover of an older child, age 3, standing on a step stool breastfeeding with the title, Are you Mom Enough?
I whole-heartedly believe in breastfeeding. But more than that, I believe a woman must mother their way. If something makes you unhappy, it will not make you a good mother. Nobody should suggest a mother's choice makes her a success or failure, especially based on parenting style.
I have three daughters ages 12, 10, and 7. I breastfed each one a minimum of 15 months. It was a good choice for me as a mother, but I often joke it was simple laziness. In the wee hours of the morning, I only had to find my boob. I didn't have to mix formula and just-right-temperature water.
I also was blessed to be an at-home mom. One of my dear friends pumped every day at work in order to breastfeed her son. I tried pumping once, and I felt like a cow and never did it again. I also went breast to cup, never using bottles. It was my choice, and I respect the choices of others.
Regarding the article... I have no problem with attachment parenting, but I have a huge problem with any suggestion that it is the one and only right way.
As women, we should come together and support one another. It's like all the arguing over stay-at-home versus working moms. When will we stop fighting each other?
What did you think of the TIME cover?
Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers who do it their way!
Tia is the award-winning author of Depression Cookies, an avid blogger, and a freelance editor. She’s also mom to three girls ages 12, 10, and 7.
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