Today is my middle daughter's 10th birthday. Reagan Dallas Bach is named after Ronald Reagan, more on that later, and my father, Dallas. She's my never-say-die, full of spunk, sweet daughter.
One of the coolest things about being a Mom is seeing your children become individuals. I thought my job as a parent was to mold, to help create who my child would be. Now, I know better. I can foster, but they sense any attempt at molding and avoid it with great effort.
Good thing my Reagan is a lovely individual.
What We Could all Learn from Reagan
Fearlessness - Reagan's never met a challenge she doesn't see as an opportunity. She embraces new things and tackles them in earnest.
Loving Yourself - Reagan owns who she is. When we moved to a new state in late 2010, Reagan came up to me and said, "Until I can find a new best friend, I'm going to be my own best friend." There was more wisdom in that sentence than I've had time to teach her.
Humor - When in doubt, crack a joke. Pretty much Reagan's philosophy. If a moment ever gets too serious, she finds a way to turn it around. It's a gift she gets from me through my father.
Embracing Fun - Never one to accept the boring or too heavy, Reagan can find fun anywhere. She loves to be outside and has an endless supply of energy. But if she's stuck indoors, she is the one entertaining her sisters and creating things to do.
Stubbornness - Yes, stubbornness can sometimes be your friend. I've always told my husband that peer pressure will never sway Reagan if she does NOT want to do something. But, Katie bar the door, if she does. I may have to embrace pink hair and tattoos in the near future!
Back to her name... my dad has always loved Ronald Reagan. After we named our first daughter Jacqueline, Dad asked if we were inspired by the Kennedys (not one of his favorite politic families). Ed and I never considered the Kennedy to connection to the name Jacqueline.
As soon as I found myself pregnant with my second baby, I told Dad we'd name a boy Ronald or a girl Reagan to make him happy. It was a joke, or started as one. But Reagan grew on us. So, of course, we had to give her my dad's name for her middle name.
I am proud every single day to call her my daughter.
What have you learned from your children?
Tia Silverthorne Bach
Co-author, Depression Cookies
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