I remember quitting my job when my oldest was 2 ½ and my second daughter was 8 months old. I had struggled with the decision for 2 ½ years and then finally decided that no decision was permanent, I might as well give it a try. I was half-convinced that I’d be bored out of my mind at home and come running back to re-apply for my job six months later. To my surprise, what I felt foremost when I began my new career as a stay-at-home mom was not boredom, but relief. I didn’t realize how stressed out I had been until I quit my job and got rid of one of those stresses. It was like a tremendous weight was lifted off of my shoulders. I still had a lot of stress in my life as a mother, but I had one less thing to keep me up at night. I had gone back and forth for over two years, but as soon as I actually made the decision, I knew it was the right one – for that time in my life. It wasn’t the right decision for a lot of my friends, but it was the right one for me and I had to follow my instinct.
Now, fast-forward almost six years and here I am starting my own blog. I did not realize how bored I’ve actually been at home until I started writing and found a way to use my brain again. When people would ask me if I was bored at home, I always wondered, how could it be boring when I always feel so busy? Frustrating and chaotic at times, sure, but boring? No way. Besides all the chores and errands that go with the job, I’ve been fortunate enough to enjoy many fun outlets - going to the gym, getting coffee with friends, reading books, and yes, facebook – so it’s not like I was just home all day doing housework and taking care of the kids. But now I’m realizing what I was missing: a creative outlet and the ability to use a part of my brain that’s been dormant for a long time now. I’m having so much fun thinking of new topics to write about, hearing people’s reactions, and trying to write in coherent sentences again – it’s been a long time since I’ve written anything but grocery lists and I mostly read children’s books these days. I don’t know how I survived this long without a real hobby. And I’m enjoying the blogging community I’ve only recently joined. There are some crazies out there but there are also a lot of bloggers that support and encourage each other. I may not have 1/100th of the fans that my favorite bloggers have, but I’m enjoying “meeting” new “friends” and am inspired by all these other writers I have discovered online. I still don’t consider myself a real blogger yet with only two months under my belt, and I don’t feel ready yet to refer to my husband as “the hubs” or write “tots adorbz” - but when I do, that’s when you’ll know that I feel like a real blogger and not a faker.
We’ll see how long this lasts. Who knows, I might be posting in a couple months, “I never realized how lame I was until I read my own blog and decided to quit blogging.” But for now I’m having fun. And I encourage you to try something new in 2014 – be it a new hobby, a new job, a new city, whatever. What you need changes as your life changes, what’s good for you today may not be enough tomorrow, or may be too much. What’s good for your friends or what people think is good for you, may not actually work for you.
So in this New Year, try something new. Because, like a new pair of jeans that you look fabulous in, sometimes you don’t realize you need a change until you try it on.
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