Wishing, Hoping, Praying
There have been periods of my life where I’ve spent a lot of time wishing and hoping that things would change. I worked, I socialized, but every few years or so, it I would fall into a practice of waiting for someone or something else to make me happy or to take control, wave the magic wand, and make my life what I wanted it to be.
Along this journey from dependent teen, co-dependent relationships in my 20’s, to mother and wife, (where now there were human beings truly dependent upon me), to mid-life momma who was figuring out what to do next in her empty nest, I learned that my happiness is not dependent on anyone but me.
Muddling through periods in my life of mindlessly distracting myself with ‘things’ while waiting for the universe to make the appropriate changes, I learned that my movement, physically, mentally and spiritually, was the absolute only thing I could actually control and that would move me forward to the next level of satisfaction and fulfillment.
Not to say my husband, children, family, friends and co-workers don’t make me happy. I am blessed beyond belief with wonderful people in my life who make me laugh and bring infinite wisdom, joy and satisfaction to my life.
But it is not, and never was, their responsibility to make me happy.
Physically, mentally and spiritually, we each are the only one who can move things forward.
5 Practices for Midlife Revivification
- Living consciously
- Eating Naturally
- Movement (body, mind and spirit)
- Recognizing our role
- Reaching beyond our limits
The 3rd Practice – Movement
The essence of the 3rd Practice if Midlife Revivification is for you to take the action of looking at all you do, make appropriate choices and take the steps to move your body, mind and spirit to new places.
Years ago, before marriage, kids, and the burden of supporting yourself and others, you had dreams of things you’d like to do and try.
Maybe it’s a different type of job, acting in a play, baking and decorating a perfect cake, jumping out of a plane or rebuilding an engine on a car (okay, not for most of us – but hey – everyone has different hobbies!)
Over the course of your lifetime, some of these dreams have been fulfilled, some have changed due to where life took you, maturity and your outlook about life, and others still linger somewhere in the back of your mind with the wistful thought of someday…….
Now is the time to reexamine those dreams, define and recognize those that would make your heart feel full and make the plans to move closer to achieving them.
It’s well known and documented that obesity, diabetes, arthritis, menopause, headaches, stress and a multitude of diseases can be avoided, assisted or alleviated by including movement, stretching, cardio and muscle building exercise into your daily routine.
And there are many ways beyond signing up for a gym membership or walking the local trail to make exercise fun and rewarding.
Over time you’ve possibly also adopted points of view on philosophies of life, politics, religion and plain old ‘how things should be done’.
Some or your opinions or attitudes are based on your values and morals, and some you’ve taken on because of the community in which you live, the family in which you grew up or married into or because it was easier to go along with the masses when you had way too many other things to do.
Somewhere in the back of your mind, however, there’s been a nagging feeling that you are not quite sure if you completely understand the subject and would like to know it better to find out if your belief is true.
Move your mind in the direction of knowledge by reading new and different books or magazines, watching films or taking a class on the subject in which you are interested.
We are each spirits of love and light. It may sound ‘woo-hooish’ to you, but it is what I have come to believe in my study of the Bible and in deepening my relationship with God.
Pushing religion on people does not make them, or you, holy. So I won’t.
However, I do encourage, if you’ve lost sight of your spiritual side, whether it be formal religion or a belief that you are part of the greater whole of this universe, to spend quiet time finding that connection.
Be it in a church praying or in quiet meditation, reading spiritual books or connecting with others in a bible study or spirit based group, taking time to connect to your heart is the most important thing you can do for yourself and for others around you.
When you begin to MOVE your body, mind and spirit to the next level, you begin to create change in your life, your marriage and your family.
Life is meant to evolve. We are meant to evolve. Look at where you started and who you’ve become so far. Move to the next level in all aspects of your life. A step in the right direction is all it takes to Move forward!
Change doesn’t happen by dreaming, hoping and wishing. It only happens when you Move.
Inspire others! Share with us below how you have MOVED forward in an area of your life!
To your best,
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