Dear Mouthy Housewives,
My mom is one of 7 children and I am one of the oldest of many cousins. Three times now, one of my aunts has hosted a family celebration at her home and not invited my sister and me. We are the only ones not invited and the only ones with small children. This same aunt visited my house and brought a gift after my younger child was born and comes to every party that I host (Christenings, 1st birthdays, summer parties) and has a great time!
To some degree, I can understand not wanting to have small children at your home. Ironically, her son was the worst behaved of all the grandchildren when he was younger. However, her rudeness drives us nuts.
My son’s 1st birthday party is coming up and I’m not sure how to handle the situation. Invite her or make a statement and purposefully exclude her?
Sick of Being Left Out
Dear Sick of Being Left Out,
First of all, your aunt is very rude and just know, The Mouthy Housewives have your back if there’s some kind of showdown over this. It appears that your aunt is suffering from Childmessaphobia. Never heard of it? I guess you’re not a doctor. Lucky for you my DVR is stuffed full of medical dramas and I can fill you in. I practically convinced myself I was a paramedic during that long “ER” run.
Childmessaphobia is a condition where your aunt’s love of children diminishes the closer those children get to her white rugs, silk flowers and family china. So she loves your kids plenty in your home but that adoration vanishes completely once those very same kids are running like crazy bandits through her own house.
In regards to your son’s first birthday party, you have three options.
1. Do not invite your aunt to the party. I mean, why should you constantly host her rude arse if she isn’t gracious enough to include you in family celebrations?!
2. Invite her for the day after the party and when she gets there, apologize for the mix-up, offer her a piece of day old cake and then ask if she can watch the kids for a few hours while you run to the gym.
3. Call her on the phone and tell her how you feel about the whole situation. This is probably the most mature thing to do. It could result in a new understanding of each other and a renewed relationship. Or you may get so angry that you go all Serena on her and threaten to shove a ball down her throat. It’s a gamble.
In the end, remember that this is about your family and your son’s birthday. Not her. So do what will bring you the most calmness and happiness on that day.
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