I remember the first spanking I received as a child. My mother was attempting to do my hair and as usual I was being fidgety and didn’t want to sit still. I just remember not being in the mood to sit there for an hour as she wrestled with my curly hair. She told me several times to keep still, but I wasn’t in the listening mood. As I look back on that day, I will say that I was in high brat mode. I remember taking the brush and throwing it the glass living room table and it cracked the table. That’s when it happened. My mother grabbed a belt and as my grandmother would say, “went to town on my behind”. I was 7 years old. At almost 33 years old, I can look back on that day, and say that I deserved every lash I got.
After that and every spanking I received from then out, my mother always made sure to explain to me why she spanked me and what I could have done to prevent it. I wouldn’t say that I was a bad child; I can probably count on two hands how many spankings I received growing up but I will say that I learned as an adult, there are times when spankings are necessary.
I totally believe that spanking, when done when the parent is not angry, is not a form of abuse. Also, when a child is a child is trained right, lessens the need to discipline. As a parent to a 9 year old, my son knows that when I tell him to do something, and it’s not done the first time he’s bound to get spanked. My son has received only two spankings so far in his childhood. The most recent one he received was because he didn’t come home directly from school two days in a row. The first time he didn’t come home he was put on punishment, but the 2nd time was when he received a spanking.
What I can’t deal with is when I see people spanking their children in public. I think that spanking a child in public is one of the worst things a parent can do. I think embarrassing the child in public will only make the child rebel even more at a later time. I realize that a lot of people are anti-spanking and probably feel that people are spank their children are abusive, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion. There is a fine line between being a parent who spanks and one who is actually abusive to their children. What it boils down to is if children are trained to be respectful and obedient then it lessens the chances of having to resort to spanking.
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