School Party - Who is it really for?

3 years ago

Call me crazy! I love my child and I have vivid memories of my mom being at school parties when I was a kid, but she was the room mom.

Is it just the school we go to or are all schools the same these days. The children are only allowed two parties a year, so they have writing celebrations and poetry celebrations and other titles so they can have events.

I get it we do not need parties all the time, but if there is not always a difference between a winter break party, an end of the year party, and a writing celebration why does the school feel better with a name change? Basically it is a time for the kids to have extra food and do something other than a lesson.

I like the writing celebration and the poetry celebration, though I do not quite see the need for food at these events or the amount that is provided. Remember just like all the other school days the kids had breakfast, they have lunch, and a snack all before 3 in the afternoon.

Back to the point of the celebration. I like hearing the children read things aloud. I believe in teaching poise and presence by having things done in front of a group. I also think this should be done throughout the year so when it is done in front of parents the majority of the students know how to present - eye contact, speak clearly, speak at the appropriate level, etc.

What I do not get is inviting the parents to watch the children have a good old fashion type of school party, you know that one that includes fun activities and food. I am not saying the children should not have these experiences, but why should a parent feel obligated to attend. Nobody wants to be the parent that cannot be there or disappoint your child, but really should a working parent take time to drive to the school, attend the party, and drive back to simply watch what in any other setting would be considered a birthday party type event.

Sorry I love my child, but I do not think they benefit from the experience because a bunch of adults are standing around watching them.  In fact the party would probably much better if a couple volunteers worked with the teacher and had a party for the children.  Then you could relive it with them as they tell you the fun they had a school and they could enjoy watching you light up by their recapturing the moment.

I am the parent who has been a room parent and may be again and while in that role I would definitely be at every party that is what I want to do and what I volunteered to do, but to ask parents to take time away from work for a get together where there is no show of school work or talents seems more like the schools are trying to hard to prove themselves or include the parents when it is really unecessary.   Most all parents love their kids and want to be involved whether they are able or not due to work and other commitments, but when they need to make choices it is unfair for pressure for parties and events like this when the sports games, dance recitals, school plays, and academic related events.

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